Parents who think their children are the greatest!
By Bunmi Sofola RECENTLY, Frieda, the head of a leading private school, lamented that modern parents are praising their children to the hilt and bringing up their daughters as if they can do no wrong. She argued that being showered with too much praise and too many presents is not a good thing for a child […]
A broken heart could be dangerous to your health!
By Bunmi Sofola Recently scientific research has shown the risk of having heart failure or a stroke doubles in the first month after losing a loved one. The findings add to growing evidence that bereavement doesn’t just increase the risk of depression and anxiety, but can weaken the body’s defences against all types of disease […]
When that ‘dirty old man’ is your dad!
By Bunmi Sofola How would you feel if your dad slept with your best friend? It happens all of the time but it’s no fun when you’re at the receiving end. ‘To say that my father, a great raconteur, often put on a show for my female friends would be an understatement. From the moment they […]
When your daughter’s marriage fails, and she moves back with her kids…
By Bunmi Sofola I had not realised just how valuable my own parents’ presence in my children’s lives would be until I moved back to the family home with them – and brought my three children with me”, said 41-year-old Ijeoma, a pharmacist with a pharmaceutical company. “I now appreciate the wonder of grandparents – they […]
How middle-aged women are pushing up abortion rate!
By Bunmi Sofola IT would be easy to assume that it is young irresponsible girls who are most likely to opt for abortion, but it is, in fact, middle-aged women who are pushing up the abortion rate. Emilia was a divorced mother of three and just turned 40, when she met Chuka, a widower at a […]
Spouses who lose their sparkle when they stopped drinking
By Bunmi Sofola Until recently, Jibola, a 39-year-old accountant was the life and soul of most parties he attended. He would think nothing of polishing off a bottle or two of red wine, then follow it up with whatever booze was available. Then, one day, horrified at seeing a colleague’s daughter’s wedding photographs and how ridiculous […]
Can a career woman really do without a man’s love?
By Bunmi Sofola HAVE you readers noticed the new and growing breed of ‘forever singles’? It consists of a band of empowered, independent women who don’t want to be defined by a relationship. Not for them nights slumped on the sofa trying to pacify a screaming kid whilst their man snores in front of Super […]
Her husband’s bit-on-the-side is a randy granny!
By Bunmi Sofola When a woman sizes up the opposition and sees she could give her a good run for her money, she often doubles up her effort to win back her man. But what does she do if the opposition is a granny?! Andrey, and her husband, Caleb, had been married for eighty years […]
Are you man enough to stay with partner who beat breast cancer?
By Bunmi Sofola FIVE years ago, I’d called on Florence, a very good friend at her Abuja residence after not seeing her for close to three years. We talked constantly on the phone, of course. But when I had to go to Abuja on business, I thought I would save on hotel accommodation by staying […]
The shock of reading about the ‘other woman’ claiming to be the wife!
By Bunmi Sofola Nikky made her way to her office that fateful Monday morning, she saw a group of some female members of staff clustering round the photo copiers and chattering excitedly. When they saw her, the silence was eerie, and instead of scurrying off to their seats, they looked at her with defiance. “I simply […]
Learning to love that man you married once again
By Bunmi Sofola FROM time to time, you run into couples who look so wrong together you wonder what the attraction is. And, there are couples you see and are convinced their union is ordained from heaven. But these assumptions could be far-fetched at times. Take Lisa’s case for instance. She’s been married for four years […]
How common are ‘surrogate’ fathers?
By Bunmi Sofola I was recently in the office of an old schoolmate when the arrival of a girlfriend of his was announced by his secretary. “Let her come in,” he instructed. Akin and I briefly worked together a few decades back. He’d done fantastically well for himself since he graduated and we’d remained good friends […]
How to dump him without bruising his ego
By Bunmi Sofola It’s really a common problem – you have brief fling with a man. At first you thought he was great, but you went off him. He was far more interested in you than you were in him. You told him how you felt, but he’s pestering you with texts and calls and […]
You can make your love-life sizzle again!
By Bunmi Sofola IF your love-life is flagging, you’re always advised to change your partner! A it drastic, but it could be extremely inconvenient socially but there is one thing you definitely ought to try first – that is changing the background. Many couples who have made love year after year in the same bed […]
Is the havoc caused by the myth of ‘soul-mates’ affecting your marriage?
By Bunmi Sofola THE word ‘soulmates’ seldom cropped into conversation some 15 years ago. If it did, it was in romantic novels or deeply emotional romantic films. Today the term is freely used by a lot of ‘modern’ loves. “Single women worry there is something wrong with them because they can’t find their soulmate,” observes a […]
Would you still be generous to a friend who betrayed you?
By Bunmi Sofola FAMILIARITY not only breeds contempt, it also breeds a hotbed of opportunities for unfaithfulness. The more close-knit a crop of friends are, the wider the chances of swopping partners, albeit discreetly. Tope’s recent experience, however, took the cake when it comes to how far you can go in forgiving a friend who ‘snatched’ […]
