My wife no longer turns me on as I don’t find her attractive. We’ve been married for 28 years and are now in our 50s. I’m not a strapping young man but I’ve kept fit and exercise daily while my wife has let herself go. My social club of which she’s a member, has a state-of-the-art gym, but she refuses to join, even though she’s always taking diet pills.

My boyfriend, 30, is kind, mature and has a good job which he enjoys. He isn’t one to go to joints and night clubs like previous boyfriends. He is solvent, having lived with his parents since three years ago when he got divorced.

IN the last few years, I’v been out with three men only. I’d discovered that they weren’t the partners I always hoped for. In fact, the last one was having an affair with a so-called best friend behind my back.

I don’t agree with your advice on pre-marital love-making. It seems to me that a girl having five lovers or more before wed-lock, which you often suggest, is now the norm, is very risky. With such easy pickings, men must be laughing their heads off with lust – unless they catch a nasty disease along the way. The guilt left behind causes a lot of misery. If love-making is worth anything, it is worth waiting for.

Do you think your undies could be causing you serious health problems? And is there a real case for permanently consigning them to the back of your drawers? Surprising as it may seem, growing numbers of women say they are quietly giving up knickers for health reasons. It seems that synthetic materials, modern dyes and industrial- strength control fabrics now used in undies could be causing everything from infections to stomach aches and even prolapses – where an organ in a woman’s pelvis slips out of place.