WHATEVER your view on sex is, the fact remains it’s recently been stripped of its cloak and dagger mystery. Where men once bragged of the number of notches on their bed-posts, women now don’t see sex as a ‘chop and wipe mouth’ phenomenon. They see it as of right – they want it, if it’s available, they take as much as they want. No guilt. Just emotional satisfaction. Ini and I were at Lilians recently and, naturally the banter skirted around sex. Lilian’s cousin Betty’s ‘problem’ came up for serious consideration. According to Lilian, Betty believes her body was made for sex!

It’s a known fact that more and more couples live together yet never marry, often in partnerships that dissolve with depressing speed and regularity. These types of couples are called Rainbow families, consisting of a mother and an array of children fathered by different men.

Due to my colleague’s resolve to keep his secondmarriage at all cost, his new wife may found permission to help herself out with some extra toppings of hard muscles. According to him, he’d since found out that such “sh.t happens” all the time and many of those who condemn things publicly, often embrace same when the table turns to them. But my friend’s uncle’s wife was not so lucky. She did not only fail to get away with adulterous acts, but paid gravely for it. I find the story rather heart breaking whenever it crosses my mind and it taught me a few lessons about relationships.

I’m in my early teens and my parents are divorced. Last year, dad got a new girlfriend who has two children and they can see their father whenever they want. But my dad’s girlfriend won’t let him anywhere near my mum and me.

About three years ago, I used most of my savings to pay for my daughter’s marriage. She’s the only girl though we have two other male children. Shortly after she got married, I lost a lot of money through the crash of the stock market. I’m trying to find my feet financially, though it’s not been easy.