My husband and I have been married for close to 15 years and I love him. He loves me too in his own way and is a good father to the children.

For quite a while now I’ve got what looks like a dark moustache on my upper lip, and recently, I’ve started to sprout hairs on the chin and my chest.

My husband took a second wife without my knowledge. We’ve been married for seven years and still remain childless due to his own fault (doctor’s report). I heard from the grapevine that he took a second wife over a year ago.

A few months ago, my best friend’s brother paid a visit to one of the top managers in the office I worked for. He didn’t know I worked there and was actually glad to see me.

Nobody’s happy all the time. All relationships go through bad patches and down stages.

“Arinola was 25 years old when she moved back to Lagos to live with her father and her step-mother after a spell of studying abroad. “It was an unmitigated disaster,” she said. “Armed with a masters degree and a prospective to-die for job, I wasn’t exactly a sight for sore eyes with my stepmother. She’d cleary enjoyed having the house – and her husband – to herself, and she was no at all pleased to see me. Weeks later, she took me aside and said: ‘You’re a full adult now. You can’t stay here for long, your presence in the house is too disturbing’.

It’s great when I don’t care and I’m not listening and just want him to finish talking. But, I don’t think I’m always going to be like that. Randomly, I’d decide that I want to actually hear him out but I get so worked up afterward that it’s difficult for me to concentrate on other things. That’s annoying!

For the past six months, I have been texting and speaking over Facebook with a babe and met up a few times. During these meet ups, we held hands, hugged and kissed. We admitted to liking each other, but there is the problem and I think it is ridiculous. Her friends think I am too old for her. Fair enough, I’m almost 36, but she is almost 17 and my religion permits a sexual relationship with a girl that age.

JULIE has just finished her stint at the private hospital where she was a matron. Her husband is a partner and a consultant at the same hospital. His hours were less erratic than hers and as she rummaged in her kitchen in the dead of the night for something to eat, she noticed the silence seemed a bit errie. Usually, when she came in late, Fred, her eldest son, who’d just been back from his Youth Service, would have soft music wafting from his room.

My guy gets into trouble a lot and has been in trouble a couple of times with the police but only arrested once and received a reprimand. I started speaking to him in November last year after my ex and I split up after a particularly rough break-up and things progressed from there. He asked me out a few times but I said that I couldn’t. I wanted to but I knew I wasn’t ready to trust anyone again after just coming out of a relationship.