Although my boyfriend has his own flat, he spends all his free time in mine. Only he scarcely pays for anything he eats or drinks.
This makes me angry knowing how expensive food and utilities are.
Whenever I ask him to chip in more, he agrees, then turns up with next to nothing in his wallet. As things are now, it is a struggle for me to pay for everything.
Tonia, by e-mail.
What you have on your hands is not just a money problem, it’s a loving problem.
Your boyfriend, apart from being a leech, is lacking in respect, affection and care.
He should want to contribute, make your life easier and want an equal relationship where you both at least, pay your way. If you’re to pay for things both of you enjoy, then it is obvious he’s in the relationship for all he can get.
My advice? Don’t waste time trying to find the money to support this free-wheeler. And don’t waste your breath trying to convince him to pay his way.
Show him the door and solve all your problems at once!