By Sola Ogundipe
You are a very busy person, so busy you have no time for frivolities like making time out for sex. Good news for you. Kristina Wright, author of Bedded Bliss: A Couple’s Guide to Lust Ever After, has put together a few tips to keep the flame burning even when you have no time to light the candle! Here they are…
Make any day special
You don’t have to wait for anniversaries or birthdays to have so-called special sex. Any day can be special, including the anniversary of the first time you made out, the day you’ve finally potty trained your youngest child, or just because it’s Tuesday. “Whatever it takes, whenever you can manage it, celebrate this crazy, messy, busy life you’ve created together —celebrate any time you can.
Get out of the house
It’s tempting to just bunker down and stay in when the weather starts to get chilly, but the problem is that your home has so many things that distract you from alone time: dishes, kids, computers, and even the television. Find a way to physically remove yourself from the things that keep you from making time for each other. Check into a nearby hotel for a night if you need to.
Napping baby? Head to the bathroom and get clean (or dirty) together. It doesn’t have to end in sex — all that matters is the time spent alone together, and the re-connection from touch. As a bonus, you can save time and water!
Don’t dismiss the quickie.
Yes, it’s nice to have an entire evening together, but sometimes there just isn’t time for an extended romantic rendezvous. Sex doesn’t have to be an all-or-nothing event. A quickie can remove the pressure. It will also give you something to remember how much you enjoy spending time together.
No, it’s not very romantic to literally make an appointment to get naked with your partner, but is it less romantic than not having the time at all? No matter how busy you are at work or what sort of responsibilities are distracting you at home, you know you’ll have one-on-one time with your love. Turn off your phones, shut the door, and focus on each other.
Constantly kindle the flame
Don’t wait until you’re about to have sex to get romantic. This will make each partner excited and eager for the time to be intimate; they will be extremely less likely to skip being intimate.
Don’t forget intimacy
It’s hard to get revved up for sex when you’re feeling disconnected from your partner. Don’t forget to work on your intimacy as well, in big and little ways. Send a quick note during the day, or text just to say you’re thinking of your spouse. Make a point of touching more often. Talk about how you’re feeling and where you’re struggling. Fostering those connections will make it easier to make sex a priority, and remind you why you’re with this person in the first place. Try out these tips.