Ade, (29), Accountant: “I can’t remember clearly if the pains started immediately after I began menstruating or not. But if it didn’t, it couldn’t have been much longer. I began menstruating at the age of 14 years, a bit late because many of my age mates had started before then. Whenever the thing came, I would be so ill that going to school used to be a great problem.

When I started, I usually feel pains on the first day. But after the first day the pain subsides and then its just the flow. I used to think that all my blood will dry up with time if care was not taken because of the heaviness of my flow. So, I used to take blood tonic. But over the years, the flow has reduced. I guess it has found a pattern.

I started menstruation at the age of 10. When I started, I felt strange because I thought I’d injured my self. But I could not recall how. I was so scared that I couldn’t tell my mum about it. Before it happened, I had no prior information about it, so that really made me scared all the more. It was my aunty that saw me and now told my mum about it.

Have you ever tried to think back, capture the first time you had sex? What was it like, was it as imagined? When did you first have sex? Why did you do it? With whom and are you still with the person? Given a second chance, will you do the same thing? Together with Onozure Dania, we talked to respondents and bring you their responses below.

Those who want to have sex at this point just pick each other and go into hiding together to do it, while those who don’t, just hide and allow themselves to get caught

He said he was very happy that he was the first man with me and wanted me to promise that he will be the only man that will be that intimate with me; he said he was very surprised to see a girl living in Lagos who could stay a virgin for that long, that he has not met a single virgin since he began dating, and neither had most of his friends

We both know this can’t go on for ever, eventually, we have to separate and pick our own partners so that the world will not discover us. Well, I think some close friends do suspect us, but no one has concrete evidenceagainst us. So, for now, we are just fine together.

The first time I had sex was with my sister. I was 16 and she was 12. We were young then and I was in love with her. I am still and she loves me too since we still do it together once a while.

Many men have been forced to settle for women they did not love just because the women got pregnant for them and refused to have the pregnancies terminated, very few men have the courage to tell a woman to go to hell once she says she is carrying their child

I was 27 years old when I first had sex, and believe me, it was due to pressure from the lady I was dating. Sex to me is not worth all the noise and trouble that comes with it. It is not as if I do not get sexually aroused or that I am impotent.