It is a known fact that having a relationship adds a lot of va-va-voom to your life. Suddenly, you’re a better person to be with and life couldn’t be more exciting. Then you have an almighty row and you’re boiling with rage.

I am sexually attracted to a man at work and I’m married. The attraction is so strong and I must confirm the feeling is mutual.

My current boyfriend is a hunk: Sophisticated and loving. He is also quite adventurous in his love-making. A few weeks ago, he said he’d like to ‘spice up’ our sex life by bringing his camcorder into the bedroom and taping us we make love! We currently live together but until he made his weird suggestion, I had no idea he was a pervert! Half joking, I told him he needed his head examined, but he laughed at me, saying a lot of his friends did it and that it wasn’t such a big deal. 

A couple of years ago at a friend’s house in Surulere area of Lagos, a ritual took place every weekend in one of the apartments. The occupant, a guy, would bring home a lady every Friday or Saturday to spend the night. Most of them never return after one or two visits. This is because you are bound to hear the lady either weeping profusely, shouting abuses and curses at him, or simply pleading and trying to negotiate her release all through the night.

I’m in my early 60s, a few years ago, I took in a girl as a maid. Her family wouldn’t help her because they thought she was wayward. In the beginning, she was unstable and kept vanishing, at first for days, then for weeks. She would come back, weeping and begging us to take her back and I always relented because I thought I could do something good with her potentials. My husband called me a fool and threatened to throw her out if she didn’t behave.