LAST year, my best friend spent a week with me trying to get over the shock of her husband’s latest affair. His latest flame had just phoned the house and she was quite nasty on the phone.

My best friend is getting married soon. What she doesn’t know is that her fiance and I are lovers.
I was quite put off when he proposed to her. But he said she was pregnant, that if I’d got pregnant first, he would have married me.

We are living in a complex and highly sophisticated society in which sexual intercourse is often taken for granted not only among individuals unknown to each other, but even between family members and close relatives. Incidents of incest, defined as “having sexual relations or activity with close family members”, are common today all over the world, but not often reported. That presents a dilemma.

Did you know that during orgasm, most of the brain shuts down? That with orgasm, raised levels of what are called the cuddle chemicals – oxytocin and vasopressin – lead to feelings of satisfaction and attachments? A study has found that women who regularly receive semen vaginally are less depressed than those who don’t says Helen Fisher, PhD, author of: Why We Love, The Nature and Chemistry of Romancing love. A bit of an ego-booster for men who are forever jealous of the role that dreaded vibrator is playing in their lover’s life!

Breaking up is hard to do, especially when you are the one left wondering what went wrong. This must be a tough time for you, especially considering that you were planning on proposing. It can appear challenging to start over when you thought you had your life all squared away. But start over you must! Have faith and believe in yourself — it will become easier with time.