While on a visit to my younger brother’s place two weeks ago, a couple of his friends also came around. I knew one of them long ago, so I decided to stay back a bit longer just to play catch on general issues ie, work, women and marriage. I can’t remember how the conversation drifted to dating and social media platforms.

Breaking up is hard to do, especially when you are the one left wondering what went wrong. This must be a tough time for you, especially considering that you were planning on proposing. It can appear challenging to start over when you thought you had your life all squared away. But start over you must! Have faith and believe in yourself — it will become easier with time.

I have been married for five years and have two boys. I am still the way I was before child-bearing. My shape and slim looks are still intact and many people who don’t know still see me as a hot spinster and I always tell the guys that I’m happily married and they should stay off. But an important issue is shaking the foundations of my marriage.My husband has had little or no interest in sex for about a year.

A while back, I got together with a 28-year-old man I met through a friend. He’s a very good-looking man and the sex was mind-blowing. I am 39 and married with three children. It was my friend through whom I met this guy that told me he would soon be getting married. As you can imagine, I was devastated. When I asked him, he simply cut off all contact with me. I’m really hurting. How could he do that to me?

Nkechi, a divorced mother of three boys was at work when Benson, her partner rang her mobile. “I need to talk to you urgently”, he said. “What for?” joked Nkechi, “can’t wait till we both get home?” “This is serious darling,” Benson said, “I don’t want you to hear this from any of the boys.