Relationships

Husbands who believe they’re goaded into being violent!

Husbands who believe they’re goaded into being violent!

By Bunmi Sofola WILL spousal violence ever go away?  Two readers sent in their views recently.  One is a married mother of three and the other is a bewildered husband who’s been physically and mentally abused by his wife.  “My husband and I were together for nearly ten years,” wrote Ibi, “and he was a […]
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How to forgive a husband who had an affair with your best friend

How to forgive a husband who had an affair with your best friend

If someone was caught having an affair, would they make a full confession? Would they know if they wanted to stay in that relationship or leave? Would they be able to explain why they are unfaithful? If they promised to ‘fight’ for their marriage would their actions match their words? For lots of people, however, recovery is not so straight-forward and takes far longer than they would have imagined on discovery day. Sometimes the person who has been unfaithful vows to do ‘anything’ to make it better, but the next day, sabotages everything.

The humiliation of dating a much younger man

The humiliation of dating a much younger man

COPING with the death of a beloved spouse, especially after years of marriage could be a nightmare. When Lola’s husband of over 25 years died suddenly, she was almost suicidal. He had a stomach ache and was dead three days later. Nobody suspected he had a tumour on his liver. “Grief hit me like a boxer’s fist,” she’d said when a group of friends tried to console her. “He was only 58 and I’d thought we had years left together. I thank God for our three lovely children – but they’re all grown now and can hardly be expected to stay at home and hold my hands .. .”

How much loyalty should you expect from a love rat?

How much loyalty should you expect from a love rat?

IT was a bit uncanny. I was at this seminar when a professionally dressed female executive flitted across the room and she reminded me of a younger version of Angela. We were classmates in the secondary school. Very intelligent and a bookworm, she did so well for herself that after getting a good job, she landed a husband that she thought was a catch. But we all knew Rasheed, her husband—there wasn’t any of us he hadn’t hit on.

Who is stronger sexually, have better orgasms?

Who is stronger sexually, have better orgasms?

On Nov. 6, 1990, Madonna, well known for pushing the limits of sexual content in her songs, released a sultry single entitled “Justify My Love” from her highly anticipated album at that time -The Immaculate Collection. In the month that followed, Madonna filmed a highly controversial and sexually charged five-minute video for the song, and submitted it to MTV which promptly rejected it on the excuse that it was just too hot for television. She was accused of promoting nudity, sex, sadomasochism, bisexuality, and other forms of sexual perversion, so the video was banned.