YEARS ago, I ran into a former colleague at a private get-together and we got talking.  “When I learnt you were getting married, I laughed my head off!” he said seriously.  I was irritated. 

For decades, women have been at the receiving end of the stick when it comes to bad sex.  It’s either that a woman is frigid or she lacks the technique to make love in order to make a mind-blowing experience for the man. 

You remember the Bobit saga decades ago, where the wife snipped off the penis of the husband who was physically abusive to her? 

IT was a little incident, but it opened the floodgate of nostalgia.  I’d arrived late at a wedding reception and was ushered to what looked like the high table.  The groom’s mother is a close friend.  I sensed rather than saw this look of disapproval burning into my scalp.  I turned, and there she was – Dolapo’s wife.  I held her gaze and gave as much hostility as she emitted.  She promptly looked away.  How long ago was it?  Over 20 years at least.  I’d met Dolapo on a flight from abroad when he wangled his way to the empty seat by my side in first class.  Those were the good old days!

YEARS ago, I ran into a former colleague at a private get-together and we got talking.  “When I learnt you were getting married, I laughed my head off!” he said seriously.  I was irritated.  So, the marriage didn’t work out, was that a reason for him to gloat?  “Candy, I know you very well.  You’re not the marrying kind and the jerk (oops sorry!) the man you ended up with could never have made you the type of husband you could endure.  You’re too intelligent and impatient, not to talk of fiercely independent to settle down to the role of the obedient housewife…” he concluded.

IT might not have been heard of a few decades back, but house-husbands are quietly creeping into a lot of matrimonial homes – thanks to women landing super executive jobs that pay mega salaries; and the spate of job losses caused by the current recession.

THE average woman, desperate for a relationship by settling for a married man, soon finds out that such men often cling to their wives.

I have always warned that the easiest way to start an affair is with a person very close to you, be it an in-law or a friend. So, when your instinct tells you your hubby is getting too frisky with your sister, alarm bells should start clanging in your brain. Wahab is the type of man who brags he doesn’t usually look for trouble – but he’s often pushed into having affairs by women who wouldn’t leave him alone.

SEX has always meant different things to different people. Whilst a handful of young ladies hold on to their virginity (as bargaining chips maybe?) a lot of men scoff at the myth of ‘deflowering’ a woman.

IT was everyman’s worst nightmare come true.  Sanni stood rooted to the entrance of the bedroom he shared with Amina, his live-in lover, the woman he threw his common law wife over for, and watched as if in a trance, another man bouncing on top of her.  Both of them were stark naked.  Despite the freezing cold outside, perspiration seeped from every pore in the couple’s bodies!  Sanni was enraged.  He raced to the kitchen and came back with the butcher’s knife his wife forgot to pack.

AREN’T our women a bit over the top in the way they dress these days?”  That was Kay as he breezed into my office looking a bit worn around the edges.  He’s currently heavily involved with Bomma, an older friend years younger than he is, but had also met Rose, one of the participants at a course we ran on Information Technology a couple of months back.

Giving presents is an art.  Some men don’t have a clue, whilst some are so romantic you wonder how many trials and errors they’d had before they got it right.  And there are the in-between ones who give presents that make you growl with resentment. A recent experience with Ola, an old friend who I’d lost touch with comes to mind. 

Anjola and her friend Nikki are in their late 40s and, a couple of years ago, they both resolved to revamp their lives so they could enjoy life to the max.  They’d both been divorced and part of their enjoyment strategy was to target younger men.  Men who are adventurous, who would appreciate the technique of an older woman!

IT is a sad fact that we can’t get all we want in a partner in just one package, making a chunk of women to choose a husband for ‘sensible’ reasons – momentarily forgetting the passion of the hot lovers they’d had in the past.  Why is it that men who are studs seldom make reliable husband material? 

IT’S no secret that sex in the office is as commonplace as sex in anywhere convenient – all you need is a little bit of privacy and a lot of ingenuity. But, have you ever thought of avenging a wrong by giving yourself an earth-shattering bunk? And, in the office? When this happened to Gbemi, she […]