By Aunty Julie

Aunty Julie,

My boyfriend and I have been together for about four years now. Since we’ve been together, he has cheated on me about five times now and every time I always take him back. It’s definitely hard to trust him but I know for a fact that I want to be married to him.

He’s telling me that he is trying to change but I’m scared of making a mistake by giving him all my trust and then getting my heart broken, like recently. I need your advice and I need clarification on if I made a mistake by getting back with him multiple times.

And should I put my trust in him again?

AY, Ibadan

Dear AY,

You really need to end things with this guy. He has cheated on you FIVE TIMES! He clearly doesn’t love or respect you and his behaviour has shown you that he can’t be trusted.

I wonder why you want to be married to someone who can treat you this way. Do you feel like you don’t deserve any better? Or maybe you think that he is the only one who would want to be with you?

Normally when women want to be with partners who treat them badly, it’s because they feel so bad about themselves that they will take any “love” that they can get, even if it comes with emotional abuse and a lack of respect, like your boyfriend has shown you.

If you are still young, you do not need to make decisions yet about who you want to marry. You still have so much to learn about yourself and what you want in life.

You deserve to be with someone who loves and accepts you for who you are, and who you can trust completely. Your boyfriend does none of these things and is not worth your love.

You can do a lot better than this guy.