Dear Bunmi, After just a few years of trying my wife is finally pregnant and we are both overjoyed. The problem is that we both smoke. I’ve offered to give up smoking to encourage her to stop for the health of the baby but she doesn’t seem to have the will-power. She also doesn’t believe […]

I’ve been sleeping with my boyfriend’s father for a while now and I’m pregnant and the baby could be his. The thing is, I’ve also been sleeping with my boyfriend. I’m scared as I’m only 19 and an undergraduate. I know what I did was wrong, but I don’t know what to do about it. My parents will kill me if they find out. Please help.

By Bunmi Sofola Dear Bunmi, I am in my mid-twenties and have been friends with Sharon since our secondary school days. She is a lot prettier than I am and has no difficulty getting boyfriends. I, on the other hand, am the reserved type though I’ve had my share of boyfriends. Late last year, we […]

I got married a couple of years ago to the man of my dream. But after the marriage, instead of moving on with my new life like I had planned, my ex came back into the picture. He texted to tell me how happy he was for me but instead of that being the end of it, we decided to meet up for some ‘closure’ and found ourselves in bed together. My husband suspected something was going on between us both and kicked me out.

Some people love to pair off like lovebirds while others like to fly solo. There’s nothing wrong with savouring your independence, as long as you are honest with yourself and your partners about what you want and don’t want out of each connection, sexually and otherwise.