He lied he no longer loved his wife

Dear Bunmi, 

In my 26 years on this earth. I have only had a casual relationship with a man I met at the university but we were not intimate. I don’t really fancy the idea of having a boyfriend but my family and friends are at my back to have one and are always matchmaking. I have a good career and I don’t mind being single. Is this normal? 

Nkechi, by e-mail. 

Dear Nkechi, 

It doesn’t matter if your views are normal or not, they are yours, so stick to them. You don’t need to get irritated with your family and friends. They match-make because they are concerned about you. In the meantime, take another look at your views on relationship. I bet that deep down, you must have a bit of anxiety about it all. Maybe you worry you would have to compromise too much. Or is it because you have seen a lot of relationships turn bad and want none of it? 

You are right not to want to settle for an unhappy life, but you can choose a partner who respects your space and have a relationship that works for you. A lot of women who were once in your shoes have eventually settled with partners they are now happy with. Just keep an open mind. 

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