In my 26 years on this earth. I have only had a casual relationship with a man I met at the university but we were not intimate. I don’t really fancy the idea of having a boyfriend but my family and friends are at my back to have one and are always matchmaking. I have a good career and I don’t mind being single. Is this normal?
Nkechi, by e-mail.
It doesn’t matter if your views are normal or not, they are yours, so stick to them. You don’t need to get irritated with your family and friends. They match-make because they are concerned about you. In the meantime, take another look at your views on relationship. I bet that deep down, you must have a bit of anxiety about it all. Maybe you worry you would have to compromise too much. Or is it because you have seen a lot of relationships turn bad and want none of it?
You are right not to want to settle for an unhappy life, but you can choose a partner who respects your space and have a relationship that works for you. A lot of women who were once in your shoes have eventually settled with partners they are now happy with. Just keep an open mind.