Dear Bunmi,

I’ve just met this wonderful man who is clever, funny and sexy. The problem is he’s massive ‘down there’. I’m on the small size so sex is always a bit painful, but this is agony.

I’m frightened to try again. Do you think we have a future?

Jessica, by e-mail.

Dear Jessica,

Don’t panic! You say sex is painful, so I think you may not be producing enough

bellow-the-belt lubrication. Take your time, and instead of rushing to get started,

indulge in a lot of fore play. Relax whilst you do that.

If you need further help, a reputable chemist will recommend some lubricants,  and remember, some positions are better than others. Talk to him about your fears – then have fun discovering ways to make love-making more pleasurable for both of  you. Your bits are designed to accommodate the head of a baby – and I’m sure that  even he’s is not that big!