Is It Beyond Pardon?

October 29, 2016

What would you do if your spouse denies you sex?


Cossy Orjiakor

By Juliet Ebirim

Rejection hurts. When a lover or spouse withholds sex, it’s a particular kind of rejection that can affect a person’s self-esteem and thought process. People can have many valid reasons for not wanting to have sex. But if you find yourself in that situation where your spouse refuses to share that physical intimacy with you, what would you do? We sought the views of some celebrities and here are their responses;


I will use my sex toys — Cossy Orjiakor, Actress


If my partner or spouse refuses to have sex with me, I will make do with my sex toys.


I’ll wait till he’s ready, but… — Mimi Orjiekwe, Actress


I will wait till he is ready. He is my husband and marriage comes with so many challenges. A normal man with his senses knows that sex is vital and important in marriage. For how long can he deny his spouse of sex? For me, I’ll only wait till he’s ready. Besides, he could be going through stress or some depressive moments which could be the cause of his action or behaviour. But if this happens for a longer period, I will call him to order as much as I can, else he will begin to share me with another man. Period!


I’ll dress more sexy and pray — Ruth Eze, Actress


I will pray about it and also dress more sexy. Appearance is very important for both  men and women. But in most cases, his lack of desire may have nothing to do with him thinking I’m not beautiful or sexy enough for him to want to enjoy. That’s why I also have to pray about it.


I’ll try to convince her — Lurrenz Onuzulike, Actor


I’ve been lucky never to be in this situation, but if it ever happens, I won’t have any choice than to work on convincing her to rethink her decision, because other options are not appealing to me. For instance, I don’t patronise prostitutes and I can’t stand the sight of sex toys for men. So, my choice is limited. I have to find a way to win back her love.


It can’t happen, but … — Blessing Patrick, Actress


It can’t happen because I have what it takes to make him always demand for it. But even if it does, I will God’s face for intervention, because there’s nothing God cannot do. Besides, it was God’s approval I sought before getting married to my husband.


I might have to get it outside if … — Dimplez, Singer


If I ask for sex over and over again and he still denies me, it definitely means he’s getting it from someone else. If it happens that I’m very horny and really need it, I might get it outside. It all depends on the situation of things though.