By Sunil Gupta

The general assessment of everyone is to perceive others with their own image and predilection, especially in close relationships. With this, one tries to impose one’s own thoughts and taste on others and ends up achieving nothing other than distance in the relationship.

In close relationships like husband, wife, father or mother and kids, other blood relations like brother sisters etc. the elder person tries to impose his taste and thoughts on others without having acceptability.

This also happens when one considers proprietary rights on others and keeps pushing accordingly to own taste.

This mainly happens as elders have high expectations, fear factors toward future and they want to create the best in short time. Their objective is good but they go wrong in process of implementation.

They, without judging their own image, keep pushing others and throw multiple advices and ends up achieving nothing, on the contrary other person in relationship start thinking other way.

It is an art to bridge gap between relationship having different taste, habits and attitude toward life. For example merely keep saying to your kid

Do not do this, do this, stop this etc .will not have positive result unless you have acceptability of yourself and your image with your kid. The same thing will apply in other relationships.

So what is the key to improve someone in close relationship? Following are the keys to improve and have healthy relationships.

Fundamental approach is first to develop attitude as Accept the people as they are. Do not try to see your taste, image and habits to be imbibed in others.

Do not judge others. Do not give conclusive statement; if you do so, you block yourself to improve other.

Come closer to the person with whom you want to the relationship to be improved. If you want your kids to give up bad habits, come close to them and have your acceptability first. Your kid then listens to you and there is higher probability of having improvement to take place.

Never continue to give advice without having the impact of the former advice.

Forgiveness and attitude of being patient help a lot and work a tonic for healthier relationship.

Stop criticising and rather begin appraising.

Summary: To accept the people as they are, come closer and have your acceptability before you put effort to improve others, stop criticising the person whom you want to be improved. Need to be patient as corrective measure is time-consuming for implementation as it is not an easy task to change some one’s psychology and thought process.

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