He said he was very happy that he was the first man with me and wanted me to promise that he will be the only man that will be that intimate with me; he said he was very surprised to see a girl living in Lagos who could stay a virgin for that long, that he has not met a single virgin since he began dating, and neither had most of his friends

We both know this can’t go on for ever, eventually, we have to separate and pick our own partners so that the world will not discover us. Well, I think some close friends do suspect us, but no one has concrete evidenceagainst us. So, for now, we are just fine together.

The first time I had sex was with my sister. I was 16 and she was 12. We were young then and I was in love with her. I am still and she loves me too since we still do it together once a while.

Many men have been forced to settle for women they did not love just because the women got pregnant for them and refused to have the pregnancies terminated, very few men have the courage to tell a woman to go to hell once she says she is carrying their child

I was 27 years old when I first had sex, and believe me, it was due to pressure from the lady I was dating. Sex to me is not worth all the noise and trouble that comes with it. It is not as if I do not get sexually aroused or that I am impotent.

Nnamdi, (48), Artiste, contracted STD on his first time out. But was he deterred? Find out below as he tells his story:
My first experience as a young man was with a prostitute. Though at the time, I didn’t know that she was one. As a young chap, I was a trouble shooting, talkative and daring guy in thick lens glasses. I had a lot of wild friends too and was very smooth with the ladies.

It was when he got up for the next guy to take his turn that they discovered the bed was covered in blood! Shit! One of them screamed. She is a virgin, cried another; as if they were rehearsing a script. Frantically, they pulled me up and one of them threw me a towel while another went about packing the bed sheets from the bed.

As I grew up, I just wanted to discover what made them different from guys. Whenever I see a lady, I was always fascinated by that “thing” growing in front of her chest, why she swayed her hips and bum in a particular manner, and why her things were different from the other girl’s things. You know, I just wanted to experiment with them and I enjoyed it.

Have you ever tried to think back, capture the first time you had sex? What was it like? For different people, it is different strokes.

I have always believed that parents were the instigators of this sexism, but then found myself being completely wrong, which is something that I hate to be, so you can imagine how difficult it is for me to admit.

Women really need to understand that there will be no women’s power in this world until women get over trying to outdo one another in spite. In the meantime, men can sit back and relax because their power is not going anywhere. I have had issues dealing with other females from the time I was a kid.

Tell yourselves the truth. Does a friend who sleeps with her friend’s husband not know that the same man will sleep with his wife later? Or does a sister who is in an affair with her sister’s husband not know that he sleeps with his wife? Any man who takes a woman to bed, will surely take another, and another. So, why is she doing it?

As a girl or woman in our kind of society, you hardly can muster that will power to utilize that option. With the present state of economy, there is very little most women can do.

This will allow Senator Anyanwu to concentrate on other effective responsive health laws especially around gender inequity and inequality which fuels the epidemic.
Ikenna Obianwa works with Terrence Higgins Trust UK