It takes two to tango, a saying goes! If two people want to be together, genuinely, then hardly will anyone be able to pull them apart. Unfortunately, it is not all the time that this happens.

You’re young and a little tipsy, a delightful guy chats you up, you drink some more cheap booze that was available at the party and end up at one or the other’s place. Then you listen to more music, laugh and drink whatever alcohol is available… ending up in bed together. In the morning, you can hardly remember what happened, let alone whether you used contraception. More women will recognise this type of scenario than will want to admit it. The million-dollar question is: Have you been there?

A single, successful, attractive man who has lots of options has seen a lot of different things from women in his life. He’s seen how women flirt he’s seen his share of how things can go wrong with women in relationships.

The hope of every mother is for her eldest child to leave the nest to start university – she also dreads the day it happens,” says Mudia, 51, an executive director of a stock broking firm”. So came the day when I hugged my 20-year-old Matilda goodbye in front of her new female hostel digs. We both put a brave face on, afterall, these exciting new beginnings would mark the next chapter in my daughter’s life – it was my duty as a mother to let go the apron strings.

A lot of men have had nothing but nasty things to say about girls who flirt. Yet, flirting has absolutely nothing to do with dragging a man by the scruff of the neck, so to speak, and leading him into the bedroom. Flirting is the little flattery things said to us by other people that make us feel good enough to be happy that we are female and are still desirable. The same can also apply to men. If it goes beyond that, it has an unhealthy ring to it, and it is called ‘leading on’.