By Ebunoluwa Sessou, Martha Godwin & Chidubem Patrick

Valentine’s Day is often observed as a celebration of romantic love, but it means different things to different people. For some, it is a day to show and express love to others, while others believe that self-care is a catalyst to unwind, celebrate, and connect.

As the gospel of self-love becomes increasingly popular, a growing number of women now see February 14 as an opportunity to pamper themselves and reflect inward.

Real love isn’t earned — Oge, jeweller

For Oge Ikekwem, an electrical engineer and founder of California-based OGÉ Jewelry, love begins within — not as a concept, not as something to chase, but as something embodied.

“Love is not something we collect from others; it is something we cultivate inside ourselves and then naturally share. What you give to the world can only come from what you carry within.

“If you have not given love to yourself first — deeply, honestly, unconditionally — then there’s nothing sustainable to pour into anyone else.

“Real self-love isn’t earned. It’s not based on achievement, dependent on approval, or about checking boxes to be accepted by society. It is the quiet recognition that you are already worthy — worthy before accomplishment, worthy before validation, worthy in the becoming.

“It is forgiving yourself, being compassionate, gentle, kind, and honouring the fact that in every moment you’re doing the best you can with what you have.

“To love yourself is to accept yourself fully — flaws, growth, humanity and all — and from that place, love overflows.

“When you have love within you, you radiate it to your partner, friends, children, co-workers, and community.

“This is the philosophy behind Ogejuwiri. Every piece is an extension of that belief: love is not something you wait to receive; it is something you remember within yourself.

“This Valentine’s Day, as the world rushes toward the usual symbols of love, I invite you to pause, offer yourself tenderness, and speak to yourself with kindness.

“You are not incomplete or waiting to be chosen — you are already whole. The love you seek has always been inside you.”

It’s about being intentional — Emokiniovo, lawyer

For Emokiniovo Dafe-Akpedeye, Valentine is not about extravagance, but intention.

“Valentine is not about performance, but about being intentional. Maybe it means taking yourself out — not because you are lonely, but because you deserve good food, soft lighting, and thoughtful company, even if that company is you.

“Self-care does not have to be expensive or Instagram-worthy. Sometimes it looks like eating properly, laughing freely, resting without guilt, and turning down plans that drain you.

“Valentine’s Day is not a competitive sport. There is no universal script for the perfect day.

“Whether you are single, in a relationship, or simply minding your business in peace, your day does not have to look like anyone else’s to be meaningful.

“After all, you are the one person you will spend every Valentine’s Day with for the rest of your life. You might as well treat yourself well.”

Appreciate all relationships, not just romantic ones — Amaka, hospitality designer

Amaka Enunwah, a hospitality and experience designer, believes Valentine is about intentional love in all forms.

“Valentine’s Day is less about the hype and more about intentional love — love for God, for my husband, for the people around me, and for myself.

“It is a reminder to appreciate relationships that have shaped my life — not just romantic ones, but friendships, family, and the quiet grace of being alive.

“I don’t always do anything extravagant, but I try to spoil myself in simple ways — good food, reflection, music, or taking a break from everyday rush.

“When treated as a moment of gratitude and self-love, it becomes genuinely special.”

I value my peace — Chizoba, beauty professional

For Mbagwu Chizoba, a wig stylist, Valentine comes with unnecessary pressure.

“Valentine does not mean flowers, chocolates, and teddy bears. To me, it’s just another regular day with business opportunities — and quality private time, if it happens.

“I value my peace over Valentine pressures. It’s not overrated, just overhyped.”

I’m more intentional about myself — Chioma, educator

Ogugua Chioma, a 21st-century educator, sees Valentine as a day of appreciation beyond romance.

“Valentine’s Day is set aside to intentionally show love to special people in our lives; family, friends, and loved ones.

“It is a special day for couples, but it should never be the only day love is shown. This year, I plan to get myself a special gift.

“One tradition I enjoy is hanging out with my friends from CYON, the Catholic Youth Organization of Nigeria, St. Dennis Parish.

“Every Valentine’s Day, we gather to eat amala, play games, laugh, and enjoy each other’s company.

“This year, I will make sure I eat very well, plenty of meat and cookies and treat myself. Self-love is important too.”

I treat myself well — Memmsomachukwu, businesswoman

For Amaragbu Memmsomachukwu, self-love is best expressed through intentional rest and enjoyment.
“Having a good treat is the best.

“I ensure good sleep, followed by a delicious breakfast, a solo dance party with my favourite music, and a relaxing spa day at home with a face mask.

“Then I order my favourite takeout and watch a movie. I spend the day exactly how I want, focusing on self-love and enjoying my own company.”

I make sure I have a sense of belonging — Tochukwu, businesswoman

For Tochukwu Agunwa, Valentine is about giving herself care and joy. “The day is well spent with lots of goodies marked out for myself.

“From morning till afternoon, I proceed to a concert in the evening to enjoy live music. All I do is give myself a sense of belonging. It is a time to love, care, and express all the love for myself.”

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