By Funmi Komolafe

Sociologists describe culture as a way of life.   It isn’t viewed as right or wrong.  It is just a way of life that people have developed and live with.

In Nigeria, culture is as diverse as the number of ethnic groups we have but over time, cultures have overlapped and others have embraced what was common to a particular ethnic group.

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With Covid 19, a lot has changed or seems to be changing.

The social aspect of our life has changed.  Now, people can only conduct burial with a maximum of 20 people with reasonable physical distance.

Covid19 has a lot of positive sides. It has put an end to Nigerians putting the dead in the morgue for up to a year for reasons of preparation.    Usually, relations who probably didn’t care about the dead while he was alive are busing running around for money to buy cows.    They meet to decided what like of uniform

( Aso- Ebi) that the family will use even as they impose indirect taxes on their guests with aso-ebi.    The cost of printing pamphlets for wake-keep and church services becomes another reason while burial is delayed.

Consequently, rather than allowing the dead to be buried almost immediately, they keep the dead in the morgue with no regular power and by the time, they have to lie in state, you hardly recognize the face of the deceased.

Have we ever asked ourselves, when the deceased was born, how many people accompanied him or her into the world?   More often, in Nigeria, only the mother and the medical personnel witnessed the delivery.

So, why, does the deceased need all the preparation made for burial.  The height of hypocrisy that attends burial is that no one is prepared to be buried along with the deceased.

Rather, they would go and host parties claiming, they are celebrating a glorious life as if the parties decide if the dead will go to heaven or hell.

Marriage is another issue that Covid 19 has helped to re-define our attitude.  Parents, get their guests involved in unnecessary expenses of Aso- Ebi.  Even those who cannot afford cows are struggling to buy one.   Whereas, what is indeed a legal marriage is that conducted in the marriage registry, which does not involve the unnecessary ceremonies that we engage in.   Where it is traditional,  it is possible to host it in a sitting room but our people must involve a crowd as if the crowd determines the success of a marriage.

More often than not, such marriages fail.

With Covid 19, people can now go to the registry, marry and go home quietly.

The social gathering in Nigeria got a sickening point when we began to decorate chairs with fabric as if chairs are human beings.

Our social life is so absurd that a Kenyan once told me that he has been to many African countries but found none so wasteful as Nigerians.

To attend a marriage or a burial, you need a make-up of artist to transform your look or paint you up like a masquerade and this doesn’t come cheap.  For bridal makeup, the charge is a minimum of 10,000.  For the guest that also makes up to the event, the make- up artist is paid up to 5,000.

Yet these same people who pay so much for makeup can hardly give a beggar 1,000.    Many of these people don’t make donations to orphanages or old people’s home.

Many of those who engage in a loud display of affluence,  hardly make meaningful contributions to the places of worship, church or mosque.

We would rather live a vain life.

With Covid 19, even if your makeup, you can be sure, the facemask will wipe it off.

Those who put every activity done in their homes on social media have also learnt some lessons.  Social media crazy people have had Covid 19 put some good sense into them.

Without doubt, this pandemic called Covid 19 has its positive side.   It will definitely cause us to change our ostentatious lifestyle.

The pandemic has indeed made us live within our means.

Never again, should go back to the life of an arrogant and irresponsible display of wealth in a society where millions are hungry and unemployed.

By the time Covid 19 leaves our shores, a new culture would have emerged.  We would have adjusted to a new way of life.

The pandemic sure has its good side.



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