By Funmi Komolafe
Let’s begin by giving thanks to God for his goodness to us. We pay nothing for the oxygen that we breathe in, it is by His grace that we are alive.
So, we need to find time to give thanks to God everyday. As Christians, we have been taught to do this but we hardly do. May God continue to have mercy on us.
In this edition of Joyful homes we’ll be discussing fruitfulness as commanded by God and its impact on our lives.
When we plant trees in our compound, it is either to beautify our home or because we want to benefit from the seeds of that tree. For example, if a farmer plants a mango tree, he expects that tree to produce fruits that he would either eat or sell. In other words, he expects some benefits from that tree. Where the tree is unproductive, the farmer may have to do away with it .
God’s first commandment about fruitfulness is found in the book of Genesis 1 vs. 28 “ And God blessed them and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth”.
God expects every living thing to be fruitful, hence he created male and female.
The Lord gave this command to human beings and all living things to reproduce their kind. We need to ask ourselves, did God ask us to go and reproduce because He couldn’t create more human beings? The answer is no.
God could have created thousands or even millions of men and women at the same time but God wanted us to be involved in the process of reproduction and nurturing in order to appreciate Him the more.
Matthew 21vs. 17-19 tells us of the attitude of our Lord Jesus Christ to unfruitfulness , “ And he left them, and went out of the city into Bethany; and he lodged there . Now, in the morning as he returned into the city, he hungered. And he saw a fig tree in the way, he came to it , and found nothing thereon, but leaves only, and said unto it, Let no fruit grow on thee henceforth forever. And presently, the fig tree withered away”.
Brethren, from this story, we understand our Lord Jesus was disappointed that this particular tree produced no fruits.
Let’s relate this to our social life. The way Jesus was disappointed, parents have similar feelings when marriages of their children appear fruitless or when they have raised a child : male or female and that child experiences a delay in settling down to family life.
This feeling of parents is a genuine concern for the reproductive lives of their children. More often however, women tend to see this as in –laws’ ‘hatred’. It is not. No parent would love to see a son or daughter barren.
The General Overseer, of the Redeemed Christian Church of God ( RCCG), Pastor Enoch Adejare Adeboye in his daily manual, Open Heavens told us why children are useful.
Pastor Adeboye wrote, “ Children are not just God’s property, they are also God’s weapons of war “.
If children are weapons of war, it is clear that you need them to go through the journey of life.
According to Pastor Adeboye, children tend to hear from God faster than adults.
The Holy Bible gave us the example of young Samuel. He was still a young child when God spoke about his decision on Eli and his household.
In the same vein, God tends to respond to the prayers of children faster because they are not deep in sinful acts as adults. Matthew 18 vs. 10 “ Take heed that ye despise not one of these little ones; for I say unto you, That in heaven their angels do always behold the face of my Father which is in heaven”.
Pastor Adeboye explained “ God says that every child has an angel , and every one of such angels has direct access to God. Attaching a powerful angel to a child is what makes children a terrific weapon. If you mess around with a child, you are inviting an angel of God to deal with you”.
Physically, speaking, children are sources of joy in a marriage.
For everyone that is trusting God for a child, my prayer for you is that God that answered Hannah will have mercy on you and answer your prayer in Jesus name.
Related to child bearing or marital fruitfulness is marriage. The first companion that God commanded us to have is by marriage. The essence of marriage is companionship but children in a marriage strengthen the union in love. It is therefore not out of place for parents to be worried that an adult daughter or son remains unmarried.
God expects us to have children when we are married. If human beings are concerned, so is God.
Brethren, as parents whose adult children are faced with such challenges, our attitude shouldn’t be that of hostility.
Rather, we should sincerely intercede for them with prayers. Where we need to make suggestions as to steps that should be taken, it should be done with love.
Parents should bear in mind that no serious couple will be in a fruitless marriage for two years without getting worried. In most cases, couples are knowledgeable enough to seek medical help but they would not announce to anyone that they are taking such steps until it produces results.
Whatever steps we take, we must remember that any effort without God factor is bound to fail. Even when we take medical steps, we need to take our prayer life seriously. When we do, God that sees our hearts will have mercy and grant our heart’s desires.
One can be fruitless in other areas of life too. A person who has been working like an elephant and eating like an ant is living a fruitless life. Such a person is planting for others to reap, this will not be our portion in Jesus name.
For anyone in that condition, you need to pray for God’s promotion. When God promotes you, you will live a fulfilled life. Brethren, it is important that we take steps to be fruitful in life but we must bear in mind that our efforts can only yield favourable results when God is involved.
Testimony- During the last Holy Ghost night, there were testimonies about couples that waited for decades believing God for children.
A couple waited for 17 years despite the fact that the wife is a nurse. When they cried unto God, he blessed them with a baby girl.
Another couple testified that they got married in 2008 but had their first baby in 2018 when God gave them their Isaac.
Just last week, I ran into a lady who politely told her uncle to stop praying for her for children yet she has been married for close to two decades without children.
That is a wrong attitude.
Whatever is the challenge that confronts one in life, one should not put up a defeatist attitude.
Brethren, are you in a similar situation, please don’t give up. Take physical steps and spiritual steps.
When you are connected with God, fruitfulness is guaranteed.