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Strategies to overcoming marriage challenges

By Pastor Okokon Ating

A man who loves his spouse and had agreed to live with her forever, needs to find a solution at all cost to the fruitfulness of himself and the wife. Some men would prefer that their wi-ves should be the only one who requires medical check ups, or spiritual consultations for possible solution which shouldn’t be for her alone but an effort driven by partners.

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Where there is understan-ding between the couple on this issue of childless-ness, separation from one another may be difficult. Hence, contin-uous unity of the union is guaranteed as both spouses have clearer knowledge of the delay either medically or spirit-ually.

There are many biblical  families that had delay in childbearing, yet they lived happily with themselves. Although, it was not rev-ealed to them then whether their infertility was due to sickness from the husband or the wife, exc-ept in some instances which were for a purpose. Referring to Genesis 15:2-3 it is written: “And Abram said, Lord God, what wilt thou give me, seeing I go childless? And Abram said, Behold, to me thou hast given no seed….Now Abraham and Sarah were old and well stricken in age, And it ceases to be with Sarah after the manner of woman.”

Genesis 18:8: “And Abrah-am was a hundred years old, when his Son Isaac was born unto him.” Genesis 21:5: The above verses showed that Abra-ham and the wife were without a child from the beginning of their marria-ge, yet no discrepancies were mentioned between them. Not at all was there any name calling such as witch or wizard or even accusing the woman of being the cause of their childlessness.

They waited for God’s ti-me faithfully, until God visited them to do as He promised. Sometimes, couples’ delay in having a child or children on time might be for a purpose, as it was to Abraham and his wife. Despite the delay, Abraham had the foresight that he will have a child at last. This was God’s response to his question in Genesis 15:2-3. In the fourth verse, God said to Abraham: “…This shall not be thi-ne heir; but he that shall come forth out of thine own bowels shall be thine heir”.

It is good for a couple who is experiencing problem of infertility to try and know much about their fertility standard by being diagnosed medic-ally. They should also assess their spiritual status through prayer, seeking from God why pregnancy is delayed and asking for mercy. Read also the story of Elkanah and Hannah in I Samuel 1:4-8. Despite the fact that there was a delay for Hannah having a child, yet Elkanah was not buffeted by this situation but lov-ed her and responded to marital responsibilities that concerned Hannah.

I want to encourage you to always hold on to God and trust Him for He can build a broken Marriage and he can also create a happy Union. God bless you.

*For enquiries contact:  Apostolic Church, 3, Tree Power Avenue, Itire, Lag-os. Or call: Pastor Okokon Ating on:

08054121355, 08179072635



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