In the lottery of life, there are some vital attributes among the humans which only the Almighty can bestow. Some of the attributes include Life, Beauty and Intellect. Over the years, scientists have tried with limited success to manipulate these attributes in man, but would always stop at the point God takes over. Personages, through the ages, have never ceased to appreciate the transcendence of life, beauty and intellect in the affairs of men.
Alexander the Great, the Prince of Macedonia, died at the age of 33 despite the fact that he had at his beck and call the best medical personnel, which the Ancient Greek Kingdom could offer. In his Last Three Wishes, moments before his death, he proclaimed that only God could give life.
Plato, the Greek Philosopher, stated that only men of intellect, i.e. the philosopher Kings, should rule a State. On beauty, Saint Thomas Aquinas, defined it as that which not only pleases the heart when seen, but also shines forth with lustre, expresses wholeness and harmonium, possesses necessary and desired proportions and above all, epitomizes perfection. According to him, beauty is that intricate tapestry woven by the mysterious hand of God.
Aquinas’ empirical perspectives on beauty refute the weird saying that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. In the Greek mythology, Helena’s explosive beauty was so overwhelming that the greatest powers of her era, Greece and Troy, had to sacrifice thousands of their young men in the battle field. The sight and thralls of beauty are transanimatory, hence beauty can ride on the back of a tiger.
It therefore takes an exceptional woman, in fact a role model, to manage the attributes of classical beauty and robust intellect with panache.
My profession as a teacher and vocation as a humanist imposes on me the moral burden of condemning evil in the society and extolling the virtuous. I am tasked by conscience to strike a mortal blow at arrogance, immorality, drug abuse, adultery, obscenity, greed, delusion, etc that pervade our society and to hoist aloft the beauty of excellence, tenacity of truth, and good conscience as well as the genuine passion to lend listening ears to the poor and needy in society.
In the first place, there are several young girls that cannot discern or interpret correctly their mirror messages. Many become so enthralled and overwhelmed by their beauties that they end up in the public convoy. But here is an elegant, skillful, beautiful girl who remained wholesome, determined, and focused. This became the bedrock of her succeess story.
Most young ladies, when asked about the ideal husband, will among other factors, be confronted with the paradox of wealth, job security, professional status, physical attributes, family pedigree and social foundations, etc. With Holy Ghost fire and audacious disdain, most ladies will reject for marriage, suitors with scarce means.
But here is a young lady highly endowed with amazing qualities but chose to marry a young man from the Mpu of yore, whose only qualifications appeared to be his legal profession, vision, and determination to succeed.
Second, most ladies present two lives- pre-wedding and post-wedding lives. The former is the loving and angelic feminine essence whose disarming humility and pleasant animation can change even the hardest of hearts. The latter is a drama queen, an overbearing termagant, a nagging harridan, an irrepressible gender activist, always stressing her rights. But here is a graceful presence who has remained the most esteemed physical, emotional, and spiritual companion to the husband.
Third, most ladies married to the wealthy and the mighty develop such a false imaginary sense of grandeur that they look at the less privileged with contempt and condescension. But here is a woman who accords respect, humour, compliments and dignity to even the lowest in society.
Fourth, most married women engage in a psychological and, sometimes, open warfare with the their husbands relatives. But here is a woman who holds her mother in-laws in the noblest and highest reverence, and radiates peace and love to all.
Fifth, most women married to the wealthy hardly humble themselves to the rigours, discipline and ethics of public service. But here is an exceptional woman of substance who in spite of the enviable height attained by her husband, strives to carve a niche for herself in public service.
Sixth, some women abandon the culinary duties of the house to maids, claiming to be too big for the kitchen. Here again is a mother figure that excels in every cuisine she tries hand on and throws her dining table open to all her guests. Seventh, there is a general gradient for tastes, social relation, and companionship to respond to people’s stations in life. The higher in the social stratum, the more selective in friendship. Here again is a woman who derives pleasure in sharing jokes with her subordinates.
Eight, human needs are insatiable. It requires moral restraint for the wife of a Council Chairman to support the establishment of a charity outfit, the Ikeoha Foundation, back in 1998, for the upliftment of the less privileged. This is the noblest of all virtues.
Ninth, most women eavesdrop deliberations with their husbands and would betray signs for invitation to the discussions. They strive at being instrumental to the thought process of their husbands. But here is a very stable woman who has total confidence in the judgment of his husband.
This exceptional woman is Mrs. Nwanneka Ekweremadu, PhD, Nneoma Ugbo and wife of Senator Ike Ekweremadu, PhD, CFR, Ikeoha Ndigbo, the Deputy President of the Senate, Federal Republic of Nigeria.
It is for these reasons that we cannot but salute at 50, the Ikeoha crown, the summary of virtues, the end of discussion in womanhood; a woman with a spark of God, a benevolent spirit and quintessential compassionate mother. We salute at 50 an amazing Amazon, a paragon of discipline, kindness, sensibility and spirituality; whose inner feminine qualities play an archetypal role in the Ikeoha subconscious.
By Chiedozie Alex Ogbonnia
- Ogbonnia, Okeosisi Ugbo, writes from Enugu