By Candida
For all you men out there who are fond of one-night-stands, one day soon, your past could return to hunt you. The thrill of one-night stands never leaves the average male adventurer who wants to have as many notches on his bed-post as he could-and marriage seldom stops him.

In his quest to keep counting the number of his conquests he throws caution to the wind. Any girl ready to romp becomes a likely candidate- no matter her pedigree.

Some years back, Soji, a typical Jack-the-lad ran, into a potential ‘victim’ at a party. Chatted all night with her. She was very and enthusiastic. ‘Can we meet up later?” he wanted to know. “Why not,? was the girl’s reply.

Could he have her  address? The girl looked a bit confused. Was he having a laugh? Seeing he was dead serious she asked. “You mean you don’t recall not only coming to my flat, but spending the night?” Soji was very embarrassed and tried to play down his faux Pax, but the girl was not only miffed, she ‘boned’ him outright!

Soji might have been left off lightly but not Samuel. A thirty-something accountant, he told me recently that he’d just found out a girl he had a one- night stand with has had his baby! ‘And now I’m afraid my girlfriend will dump me if she finds out,” he said. “I used to be a right Jack the lad as far as girls were concerned – and there was no shortage of takers.

Then I met my current girlfriend at a party. There was something about her that intrigued me. She wasn’t wearing sexy clothes like most of the girls, yet she oozed sex appeal, I couldn’t believe it when she turned me down, but I didn’t give up. I got her number from a friend and bombarded her with texts, asking her out.

“She kept refusing, saying she didn’t want to be another notch on my bedpost. Then one day, I met her by chance in town and asked her for a drink and she said yes. I couldn’t believe my luck. When we talked, it was as though we’d known each other forever. She told me she knew my reputation and didn’t want to be made a fool of.

But for the first time, sex wasn’t on my mind because I knew she was special. I gave her my word I wouldn’t let her down.

“We’ve been seeing each other for close to a year and my friends say  I’m a reformed character. I go everywhere with her and I’m  not interested in other girls.

Then came the bombshell from this ‘free agent”.{ I met a couple of year back. I got a text from her saying she’d just had my baby. I had a quickie with her in my car when we met at a disco and promptly forgot about her.

She was dressed in really revealing clothes and had sex in her mind. Who was I to refuse? She was a bit brash for my liking, but then, I thought, why not? Afterall, there were no strings attached. She rubbed herself against me and turned me on so much that I took her to the quiet spot where my car was parked and we had sex.

I never saw her again, didn’t even remember her name. Yet she still managed to track me down.

“She wants us to meet and talk about ‘things’. What a laugh 1 Why would I want to meet her? I’m not interested in her or her brat. For all I know, I might not even be the father. Maybe after contacting her list of prospective ‘fathers’ and failed, she thought I might just bite her bait.

“All I’m interested in for now is my relationship with my gorgeous girl-friend. But I’m a bit worried in case my girlfriend find out. A girl like this trollop could do all in her sick powers to ruin things for us.” “‘I advised Samuel to meet up with the girl from her past and insist on a blood test to ascertain paternity. I also printed it out to him he’, have to come clean with his steady.

If she hears it from someone else, she’ll think he has something to hide. She’s not likely to be happy about it when he tells her, but there’s no reason why she should dump him because of something that happened before she came on the scene. I haven’t heard from him since. I only hope he gets out of this dilemma with minimum of regret.

All over the world, quickies have always been a quick-fix for various sexual problems- an easy and quick release from sexual frustration, a curiosity to find out how effective your ‘moves’ are. It could even be a sort of having. He back on a partner that hurts you. In the long run, the outcome could be devastating – even for a man.

Fred, a businessman said he once went late to a private party and was able to count at least six girls he’d bedded.

“Three of them were huddled at a corner in a conversation when I came in”, he said. “As soon as they saw me, they waved mischievously and continued with their talk, glancing  at me from time to time and smirking. Were they laughing at me? At my sexual prowess?

I was so uncomfortable that I left as soon as I decently could. So it is not only you girls, that feel embarrassed for being easy ‘lays’, men too find  themselves in that boat from time to time. “