By Folake Aina
That you help to make another fall does not guarantee that you would be standing forever. On the contrary, when you help someone else rise up, is almost guarantee that you would be up forever.
In fact, if you remember seed time and harvest time, if you enjoy seeing others fall, or making them fall, it is most likely that very soon you will fall, and there would be no-one to help you up.What we are talking about today is women working with women, and I am sure you all agree with me that we women really need to get our act together.
Why is it that women are always so nasty to one another. I really do believe that should change.
Let us start off by saying that the woman is an embodiment of motherhood. Never
forget that. That means you give life.If we as women must achieve great success
in life, we must become special kinds of people. Think about it. A woman is created to give life.
Always add to something or someone .Spread love to others.You give hope to the helpless, and your home should be refuge for the needy.Your ultimate responsibility is to be a blessing to others. When you cease being a blessing, you begin to lose relevance.
I believe that if women must work well together, first of all, every woman must make it policy never to criticize other women, because yo u really donâ€™t know what their story is.
You really cannot know how you will handle any issue or situationÂ till you have been there. You learn from other womenâ€™s mistakes, so you donâ€™t end up being the bad example other women learn from. Make it your policy not to put other women down.
Her being down does not add to you. Help her to get up, and you will never know the way down. You must always be ready to give a helping hand to everyoneÂ that needs it.
Never weary of doing good.Â Â Â Know what you want in life and go for it. If there is something about your life that you donâ€™t like. Just change it. It is that simple. Donâ€™t settle for less than your best. You must get your act together. No-one wants to be around a person with a bad attitude.
Great womenÂ are never pompous or arrogant. If you want to succeed for a very long time, Pride never sets in. Too many woman have fallen because of pride. Pride is self-importance and self-centeredness.
How many times have you heard anyone have problems with their father in law/Hardly ever.Â ITS ALWAYS THE MOTHER IN LAW.Â Its still about women working with women. I am looking atÂ both sides now. You could be the wife, and you could be the mother in law.
Lets say you were the wife. Why cant you work well with your mother in law. I know there are some really terrible women, but I have grown to realize that there is really no one you cannotÂ win with love. Many women go into marriage just prepared for battle with their mother in law. Why? This woman birthed that man that is giving you joy, she deserves to be loved by you. She deserves your attention. Shes a mother .
Spoil her. You are only sowing a seed for your own old age. Sometimes it would cost you time, sometimes it would cost you money, but hey, its worth it. Whether you like it or not, men love their mothers very much. There is no competition. Wifey has a big spot in his heart and there is a different spot for mother.
I know that there are so many mothers in law who are mean, insatiable and condescending. Just win her with love, and fight all your battle on your knees. Ask God to take over her heart for you and turn her heart of stone to a heart of flesh.
ForÂ those of us who have grown up sons. Be ready to release your son to his wife and let them cleave. Win a daughter. .Shes your shild, gently counsel her with love, and for most times, mind your own business. Give your sons wife love like you love your son, and guess what, she will always pray for you.
Donâ€™t become that mother inlaw, that your sons wife will be so fed up with your wahala and shes praying fire prayers on your head and asking for stroke etc for her husbands mother so she can enjoy her husband in peace. Patience, kindness, and compassion and love are qualities which when cultivated generates progress and youthfulness.
There is so much strength in unity. Women must learn to start helping each other and make a difference. Women are beginning to take over most of the fields and areasÂ that were manned by men in the past. Lets us all help each other to stay on top.
We all need to encourage one another and stop bad mouthing and criticizing one another. If we all made up our minds to operate in love, we are on the way. Being a woman making it in a mans world is tough enough. Do what you can be to help another succeed. Before too long, you would find yourself succeeding.