By Candida

It’s amazing that in this day and age, a lot of readers keep on texting to find out if the stories in this column are true! Relationships are the most complex things the average person can understand and believe me, stories in this column are so tame compared with what goes on in most homes and behind closed doors!

Cases of infidelity are as old as the stories you read in the various holy books, and all over the world, a lot of serious journals are introducing ‘human angle’ stories because they’re what interest readers.

Visitors to Britain and the so-called ‘first’ world countries know that after certain hours of the night, when the kids are tucked in bed, you could flick on a few of the standard channels and watch raw porn movies and it is legal.

Here, Femi Kuti crooned ‘Bang, Bang, Bang’, a few years ago and the music was yanked off the air by do-gooders who believed it was lewd! The poor man was vindicated when he was specifically asked to play the same tune at the just concluded World Cup opening!

About time we took a look at what is going on globally.  Most secondary schools now skip sex education, whilst parents are sometimes too embarrassed to tell their wards about the ‘birds and the bees’ leaving most of our teenagers open to the wiles of pedophiles who trick them into having the most atrocious sex acts and threatening them not to tell if they don’t want to get into serious trouble.

Religious freaks who preach fire and brimstone all of the time are constantly paraded on the pages of newspapers for one lewd act or the other. The most bizarre I read a few years ago, was of a man of God who openly named and shamed the housewives he’d committed adultery with in his church before committing suicide!

There are also stories of holier-than-thou Senator Yerima and his penchant for under-aged girls that have left us speechless-a law maker thumping, his nose at the law of the land and hiding under the cloak of religion! Modesty stops me from revealing a lot of atrocities even seemingly respectable men and women get up to in the confines of their rooms.

And that is just the crux of it – whatever takes place between consenting adults should be nothing to be ashamed of.
It’s always been advised that whatever hang-ups you might have about sex should be immediately addressed through counseling or medical help. Sex is the healthiest exercise in the human life – and if you’re not getting adequate satisfaction from it, or are not getting any at all, something is seriously wrong and you owe it to your well-being to correct the anomaly.

MASTURBATION DOES WOMEN A LOT QF GOOD!
Over 60 per cent of women have had to masturbate one way or the other while the others believe they have no need to.

Are these later set of people missing out on something special? According to a psychotherapist, Dr. S. Humphery: “A woman shouldn’t feel under pressure to masturbate just because she feels everyone else is doing it. If it isn’t your thing- then fine- but there are actually some health benefits to self-love.

For example, you say you’re short of energy – masturbating, like exercise boosts natural endorphins that can in turn increase energy levels and help you relax.

It also improves blood flow to your genital area which means more essential nutrients to help keep the tissue healthy. In addition to this, each time you orgasm, you strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which help support your womb, bladder and virgina.

The more toned the area, the more snug a fit you’ll have with your partner’s penis, and the more sensational you’ll feel during sex.

“Solo sex is all about giving yourself pleasure. It’s no coincidence that women in their 30s masturbate more than twice as often as women in their 20s. As we mature and gain confidence, sex ceases to be just about what men want from us and more about what we want.

Masturbation helps us discover this. Although some women feel they’re betraying their partners by masturbating, the actual benefit it brings to your relationship can be twofold: First, it brings variety into your sex life, giving you an opportunity to explore new desires and fantasies that will find their way into your shared sexual experiences. Second, masturbation will give you a sense of independence from your partner, reminding him you are a sexual person in your own right, which should prevent him taking you for granted.”