There is a Yoruba adage that says that you cannot hide your nakedness from the person that will bath your body after your demise. So, whenever you remember that neither of you is complete without the other, then, youâ€™ll know there is no point keeping secrets. Itâ€™s like running from your own shadow. Doing that can only mean that you have some hidden agenda. And that is dangerous for any relationship.Read More
Hi, Who is your confidant? Is it a friend or your spouse? How much of your secrets can you share with your spouse?
Love, they say is about giving and sharing, which can only thrive where there is mutual trust, understanding and effective communication between the partners. So, who better can you share your secrets with other than the one you claim to love, cherish and share your body with? The one who is supposed to know you inside out.
There is also another very difficult secret a woman cannot tell her husband, and that is when the woman brings an illegitimate child into the family. You know, it is believed that it is only a woman that knows the father of her child because the child belongs to anyone whom she gives it to. These things happen all the time, and the reasons vary from one situation to another.Read More
Virginity is a thing a woman can not discuss with her husband. In our own days, virginity was still accorded much respect and a woman who still has herâ€™s was the pride of her husband. But all the same it did not really matter where the woman is not with it.Read More
Any man who puts his life and livelihood in the hands of a woman does so at his own peril. It is not possible for you to discuss your family matters with your wife because most of the things they will say does not concern her in the first instance, and sometimes when they do, they are most likely not to be in her favour. By discussing whatever was said with her, you will only be poisoning her mind against them.Read More
If you tell her from the beginning, she might even discourage you from doing the business, especially, considering the risk or the amount of money involved. Many woman are not that bold when it comes to risks.Read More
In the case of sudden death, which can go either way, it could be you or him, everything depends on God. Whatever I have as my personal savings is what I plan to fall back on in case of any accidental eventualities. You need to see what widows go through in some cultures to know just a little of what I am talking about. Once a man dies, it is assumed that the wife must have something to do with it because she has something to gain from his death.Read More
I believe I did all I did with sincerity, honesty and love for my friend and was trying to protect her. If we sat at the same table, there was no way my husband would not have discovered the identity of the man, and you can imagine the type of problem we will all be in right now.Read More
She doesnâ€™t know that I have spies in her shop who give me full details of what she does there. She has a new boyfriend who has entered her system, so she canâ€™t reason properly anymore. I was told by my spies that they were discussing my affairs at the boutique over a bottle of Stout. Can you imagine? Maybe she was drunk then, because I still find it difficult to believe.Read More
Hi, Ever imaginedÂ what the ground would look like should two Elephants fight as a saying goes? Not very pretty I think. Then, take this other scenario. Imagine what would happen when things fall apart between two very close women who once did almost everything together. Worse than the joint efforts of two elephants I
Ade, (29), Accountant: â€œI canâ€™t remember clearly if the pains started immediately after I began menstruating or not. But if it didnâ€™t, it couldnâ€™t have been much longer. I began menstruating at the age of 14 years, a bit late because many of my age mates had started before then. Whenever the thing came, I would be so ill that going to school used to be a great problem.Read More
When I started, I usually feel pains on the first day. But after the first day the pain subsides and then its just the flow. I used to think that all my blood will dry up with time if care was not taken because of the heaviness of my flow. So, I used to take blood tonic. But over the years, the flow has reduced. I guess it has found a pattern.Read More
I started menstruation at the age of 10. When I started, I felt strange because I thought Iâ€™d injured my self. But I could not recall how. I was so scared that I couldnâ€™t tell my mum about it. Before it happened, I had no prior information about it, so that really made me scared all the more. It was my aunty that saw me and now told my mum about it.Read More
Have you ever tried to think back, capture the first time you had sex? What was it like, was it as imagined? When did you first have sex? Why did you do it? With whom and are you still with the person? Given a second chance, will you do the same thing? Together with Onozure Dania, we talked to respondents and bring you their responses below.Read More
Those who want to have sex at this point just pick each other and go into hiding together to do it, while those who donâ€™t, just hide and allow themselves to get caughtRead More