By Folake Aina
Theres  so much going on in most homes, and many people do not know about it. Many women are so busy, they do not know what goes on in their homes behind closed doors.

There so many children who have confided in certain adults what they go through when their parents are not at home. Today I advise all parents to educate their children about sex.  The truth is that whether you like it or not, these children know much more than you think they know about the topic, just that they have perverted information, and they are getting it from all the wrong sources.

They know what sex is, they even know what is done during sex, but when confronted with a real life situation, they don’t know how to handle it or how to report it. Since you didn’t win their trust, you didn’t level with them, they don’t know how to discuss it with you when they are abused or assaulted.

Every mother must let their children know that no one has a right to access their private parts, touch them in certain areas.

This woman had invited her junior brother to live with her family. All the children looked up to him as their uncle, and the loved him. He took care of everything for them, and was always there for them. He did the school runs, bought them things they wanted, and the kids loved and trusted him. He was always home with them when their parents went out.

Then came this day, both parents were out at night, and as usual they had entrusted the house and the kids to the young gentleman. As soon as all the kids were fast asleep, he made his way to the girls room where their ten year old daughter lay fast asleep.  He sat by the girls bed, and began to fondle her  buttocks and her breast.

The girl woke up shocked at what her uncle was doing to her, but he assured her that it was alright, as he was only expressing his love for her and nobody was supposed to know about it. This continued for a while and no one suspected.

Eventually, he convinced her that it was alright for him to have sex with her.

He told her it would be painful the first time, but she would begin to enjoy it thereafter. That was the beginning of years of continuous sex almost everyday between this girl and her uncle.

Before too long, she had started having sex with other young guys in the neighborhood, thinking like her uncle had told her, it was only a way of expressing love. Today, this girl is not married, and operates all over town like a nymphomaniac. She cannot go through a day without having a man sleep with her.

What we see here is a young life destroyed because her parents were careless. There have been cases of children abused by their houseboys and housemaids. We really must be very careful. Reminds me of another story. This five year old boy fell sick.

The mum noticed that the boy had some white nasty discharge and was itching. She took him to the hospital and some specimen was taken from him and sent to the lab. When the results came, both his father and mother were shocked because he had some form of sexually transmitted disease.

The boy’s father positive that he was never involved in any kind of extramarital activity, concluded that the boy must have got the disease from his mother from birth, and decided that his wife must have cheated on him at some point, and contacted the disease. The woman was shocked. It was very painful, but how was she to prove her innocence.

Fortunately, the child was able to describe how his nanny always played with him and how she would put his little dingaling inside her. This happened everyday for a long time. Of course the woman tested positive to the same std and had to confess to the fact that she would play with the child till he had a hard on, and she would put him on top of her, and guide him to having sex with her.

Very    nauseating,  but very true. We must be careful and educate our children on these things. In that scenario, they must know who the villain is and expose the monster. They must know how to shout or run when anyone makes any such move on them, and report it. There are too many young people who have aids, and the background of their problems could be trace to the fact that someone had sex with them when they were young.

You must make sure that you know the people that live in the house with you, and know how to protect your children from them. These are our children. We are responsible for these children. We must know that there are wolves out there in sheep’s clothing, and most of the time, we are the ones that invite them into our homes.

I am not saying we cant have people living with us. I am saying let your children know that no one has any right to as much as touch them funny. Too many destinies have been destroyed  because of their parents carelessness. We cant be too careful.