Dear Bunmi,

Making love with my boyfriend is a nightmare. The foreplay starts off well and we both get aroused and ready for sex. But as soon as we reach for a condom, my boyfriend loses his erection. It’s been like this for months and ,it’s so frustrating. Now we’re starting to avoid sex because it’s too much hassle. Apart from this particular issue our relationship is loving and fulfilling. I’m keen on using condoms as I don’t want to get pregnant or catch any disease, most especially AIDS. How can we deal with this problem?

Oluchi, by e-mail

Dear  Oluchi,

Well done for wanting to protect yourself. Instead of reaching for the condom when you’re both aroused, why not make it part of foreplay and slipping it on as soon as your man is aroused? Alternatively, you could have yourself tested for sexually transmitted infections. Go to the nearest health-centre near you and ask them to check you both if you don’t have your own doctor. Once you have the all clear; you’ll be free to use a non-protective form of contraception such as the pill, which won’t interrupt your love-making.