By Aunty Julie

Dear Aunty Julie,

I really like this course mate of mine. She is so nice and caring and kind and generous, and also really pretty. I’ve tried flirting with her but it doesn’t work. Also, I always try to say hi to her seductively so it sounds sexy, but her voice is so cute and it makes me feel dreamy.

love

I’ve caught her gaze in class a few times and her big brown eyes are so beautiful. I have also hugged her once and I think I was so caught up day dreaming that I didn’t hear her saying to let go. I also play dumb so she can help me with my projects. I really want to ask her out but I get so nervous trying to ask. How do I do it?

Fabian, Lokoja

Hello Fabian

The quickest way is to just ask her on a date, straight up. Something like during the weekend . But if you feel like it’s too direct for you, maybe there are some other ways you can spend more time together, like hanging out in a group, or helping with coursework, or even doing something together where you share the same interest.

Basically, it boils down to a bit of creativity, patience and courage. You choose your own adventure. Honesty helps. If you’re happy to hang out as friends, then get to know her that way. Friendship can be the best start to some fantastic relationships. But if you’re  frustrated because really you want a more romantic relationship, the only way to fix that is to ask her out straight up.

You’ll risk rejection, but you won’t waste time agonizing about whether she  likes you or not. Just remember that everyone  has personal preference about their own taste, and it’s human nature that sometimes someone will be attracted to you but you might not like them. It’s just preference.

I hope this lady shares your feelings and you have a great time together. You certainly deserve to have a fun, romantic relationship. Everyone does. Enjoy yourself. Whatever happens in your own adventure, feel free to write back!