Dear Bunmi,

I‘m devastated after my boyfriend admitted he was responsible for the pregnancy of another girl not far from where he lives. Another friend of his had told me of this pregnancy and when I confronted my boyfriend, he begged for forgiveness and said it was a drunken one-night stand and that it didn’t mean anything.

We’ve been together for four years and I really thought he was ‘the one’. I’m heart-broken that, just around the time I thought we’d be settling down, another woman will be having his baby. I don’t want to turn into a witch and stop a child from having a father either. What should I do!

Fidelia,by e-mail.

Dear Fidelia,

Of course, you’re feeling absolutely devastated. Not only has your trust been broken, but there’s going to be a constant reminder of it in the form of a child. And you’re right – it would be deeply unfair to cause any difficulties for your boyfriend in him doing the right thing for this child. But can you really accept this situation?

At the end of the day, only you can decide if you could trust him enough not to do it again in future or if you could play the role of a step-mother-albeit reluctantly.