Dear Bunmi,

Five months ago, a good friend of mine split from her long-term partner who happens to be my boyfriend’s mate. Her ex was insufferable and she should have kicked him out a long time before he finally left her for another woman.

She was very upset at first but now she tells me she’s over with him but is bent on making the most of her single status and is going to have lots of fun. I’m worried if this fun of hers would include her sleeping with any man going. That might spoil her reputation.
Florence
By E-mail

Dear Florence,
It’s only natural that you want to take care of your friend. So, if she starts sleeping around, you need to have a word with her. Let her know that while having no-strings sex can be fun, you don’t want her to get hurt in the process. There is also the danger of STD if she’s not well protected.

But could you be over-reacting? Have you any evidence she’s about to paint the town red? Or could it be you’re a bit angry with her, not only for splitting with your man’s best friend, but also for being a foot loose and single woman whilst you’re still stuck in your relationship? If it’s envy rather than worry that’s motivating your concern then back off. Your friend is adult enough to know what she wants.

Are bald men sexier?

Dear Bunmi,
I’M a mother of two, separated from my partner and have just met this lawyer who is a widower. Although he is in his early 40s he’s gone bald but a close friend said I should consider that a bonus that bald-headed men are better lovers. Is this true? My ex wasn’t that much of a good lover and I might overlook the bald head if there are promises of good things to come!

Alero
By Email.

DearAlero,
Although I can’t answer your question from personal experience, theory says there might be some truth in it! Some men go bald because their bodies produce a lot of one particular hormone called testosterone. This is also the hormone that makes people – women as well as men -feel randy.

A lack of sex drive is often caused by a lack of testosterone. So it seems fairly safe to say that the two things might be linked. My advice? Never turn down a guy just because he’s going thin on the top!

Could he be the father?

Dear Bunmi,
At a recent family wedding reception which took place at my brother-in-law’s house, I had a really drunken night with a few family friends, including my brother-in-law. Things got out of hand and we ended up having sex in a spare room in his house, I regretted it immediately as I’m very happy with my husband.

We have two children and are planning for the third one. Now I’ve just discovered I’m pregnant and there is a good chance my brother-in-law could be the father. Should I discuss this with him before I tell my husband?
Dunni,
By E-mail

Dear Dunni,
I can’t make this decision for you. If you come clean you’ll destroy your marriage and your husband’s family as there’s no guarantee your brother-in-law would keep quiet once he knows. If you keep quiet then you’ll have to live a lie, and since your brother-in-law and your husband are blood brothers, you might just get away with it.

You need to do a bit of soul searching though. You say you’re happy with your husband but if you were, things wouldn’t have got out of hand with his brother. Whatever you decide about the baby, you need to take a hard, long look at what’s happening in your marriage.