Dear Bunmi,

I’ve been secretly dating my current boyfriend who used to be my brother’s new wife’s ex. It’s not a serious relationship as he has other girlfriends.

This has never bothered me until now that I’ve discovered I’m pregnant. I’m scared to tell anyone as this man is the father of two of my sister-in-law’s children.

What on earth should I do?

Ego, bye-mail.

Dear Ego,

You’ve not really done anything wrong, as this man of yours is not a blood relation. But since you both agreed your affair was a fling, do you know how he feels about this pregnancy?

Morally, it could be a bit embarrassing and you have to have the possibility of having a child by someone who is almost certainly not going to stand by you.

So you may need to think carefully about what you do next. Whatever decision you arrive at, you have the most to lose.