By Pastor Okokon Ating

*TYPES OF CONFLICTS AND HOW IT AFFECTS MARRIAGES

We have various types of conflicts that trouble our societies and marriages. They include:

*MAN VERSUS SELF CON-FLICT: This type of con-flict is when a man is going through an emotional tra-uma that has to do with self failure. When you can not forgive yourself for personal mistakes either from the past which ref-lects or affects the pre-sent condition in the marriage. It’s a conflict where a man fights against his or her self, annoys with oneself and this most of the times leads to suicide mission.

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*MAN VERSUS MAN CONFLICT: This is the usual misunderstanding between two partners, conflict is inevitable in all marriages, but ability to control or manage the conflict is what makes a marriage an outstanding one. It takes love and mat-urity for couples to live peacefully together.

*MAN VERSUS SOCIETY CONFLICT: This has to do with environmental effect on man which also affects marriages if not controll-ed. Lack of job opportu-nity courses a lot of pro-blems in marriages, poor salary could also leave a man with a lot of debt and lead to poor standard of leaving, when the society is not assisting the citiz-ens, it bring a lot of bad ideas to couples, ideas like, armed rubbery, adult-ery, fraudster, and all the-se ideas cannot build a good and godly marriage.

*MAN VERSUS NATURE CONFLICT: This conflict has to do with natural occurrences in a man or a woman that has become unbearable to his or her partner. Some can be con-trolled, corrected or man-aged, while some seems permanent. For example, being allergic to some particular food can really cause conflict between couples, others may incl-ude snoring, anger, body or mouth odor etc.

*MAN VERSUS MACHINE CONFLICT: This is called Industrial Hazard, when a machine or chemical leav-es a permanent scar in the body of a couple, it might cause a serious conflict in marriages and could lead to break up if not handled maturely.

*REASONS FOR CONFLI-CTS

There are many reasons for conflicts in marriage. Such reasons may not be fully stated here but we would be treating the pro-minent one in many marr-iages today. Here are the prevalent reasons for conflicts in marriage:

1. INCOMPATIBILITY: This is conflicting, incon-sistent, and unable to exist together, the condit-ion of two things being as different in nature as to be incapable of coexist-ing. It can also be defined as not being able to exist or work with another person or thing because of basic differences.

I consider it as “unblended individual differences”, such differences involve the following:

SOCIAL FACTORS: This is an instance where a husband or wife is being famous than others in the society. E.g. A celebrity with a mediocre.

PERSONALITY FACTORS: When one of the couples is wealthier than the other, this is common in marriages; the wealthier among them sees the other as a slave or house maid.