By Yetunde Arebi
Last week, we published the first part of this article and examined four types of intimate kissing you can indulge in to take your love life to the next level. If done right, kissing can actually earn you points on the rating card of your partner and even open doors to pleasurable intimacy you never expected or knew possible. In that article, we discussed extensively. the famous French kiss and it variants, the telltale Hickey, a stamp of ownership or Forget-Me-Not, as well as the Vampire and Butterfly Kissing. Today, let’s look at more lip locking styles suitable for each step of your love journey. Here we go:
The mid-sex kiss
The mid-sex kiss is just what it sounds like—you’re making love and kissing at the same time. This means you need to be intimate for this to work. It is very hot because you are combining two of the world’s most romantic acts together. The additional advantage is that you are not only working upstairs and downstairs simultaneously, the mid-sex kiss can be used to prolong lovemaking for the lagging female partner to catch, or used to delay quick ejaculation for the male partner.
The Spiderman kiss, otherwise known as the upside-down kiss became the rage after the first of the Spiderman series of movies, showed a thoroughly soaked Kirsten Dunst planting an upside-down kiss on the deliciously boyish Toby McGuire. It reminds me of the ‘69’ sex position, and may easily set the tone for it, if you have good moves. You too can create this kiss when you are lying or even reclining together. With your partner lying face up on the ground, bring your face exactly over theirs but from the opposite direction so that your bottom lip kisses their upper lip and the other way round. Remember, you are not Superman, so don’t try to play the hero by trying out something stupid.
The next group of kisses are what I call Facial kisses or the Pecks. Like the French kiss, this come in various styles so you can apply according to the situation. Pecks are simple kisses done with closed tight or soft lips on the Cheeks, Jawlines, Earlobes, Chin and the Lips.
Though the Peck is usually a polite kiss, it can mean several different things, depending on the person and how long two people have been dating. It is used as an expression of friendship. On a first date, it may also be a means of testing the waters without seeming too aggressive. The peck is a short, tight lipped kiss on the lips or cheeks, capable of sparking romance between two people. A peck on the lips is a suggestion that there is to be much more smooching in to be done in the future. It is very sensual, yet still somewhat chaste and restrained.
Then there is the Woodpecker, rapid, cute and playful fire pecks. Like the peck, you can convey a lot of affection without allowing things to get too hot and heavy. The message being passed here is, “I really like you, a lot, but I don’t want to get myself all randy right now.”
The woodpecker is also a good option when it comes to Public Display of Affections (PDAs). No one wants to watch you swallow each other’s saliva or faces.
The Cheek kiss is a closed mouth kiss on someone’s cheeks and can be used to flirt, pass a friendly greeting or to say goodbye to someone you love. In fact, apart from a friendly hello, a cheek kiss can be a cute way of saying a flirty ‘thank you’ to someone or a cute appropriate signing off after a first date that has gone well.
Another facial kiss is the Jawline kiss which is done by people who are well known to each other or already dating. You should never try this kiss on someone you just met. A Jawline kiss is a firm kiss on the lower side of the jaw where the neck meets the jaw. For those already in a relationship, it is usually fun to kiss a partner’s jawline after having some intense French kissing. If they respond well to it, make a path of jawline kisses up to their ear and give them an Earlobe kiss. This involves taking your partner’s earlobe between the lips and tugging gently upwards or downwards. This kiss can be made more intense by gently rubbing the tongue in a circular motion, or using a gentle sucking motion on the earlobe. Avoid making loud sucking noises as ears are sensitive noise detectors. Finally, you have the Chin kiss which is done simply by holding your partner’s chin with your fingers; middle, index and thumb. You can combine this kiss with the French kiss for effect too.
I call this next group the Limb kisses. From the hands to the legs, these kisses can be very chaste and erotic depending on how it is applied. The Hand kiss dates back in history and was performed with a bow to show deference to a lady. It was used to demonstrate respect, adoration and kindness. However, over time, being one of the first physical contacts between a male and a female, especially in public gatherings, not a few men often use this gesture to make their intensions of an intimate relationship known by gently gracing the inside of a lady’s palm with their fingernail. This can be very tickling and erotic, though some find it quite distasteful, especially if the female does not share your kind of enthusiasm.
Then, there is the Foot kiss which though also used in some cultures such as the Indians to greet or show respect, is also both a romantic and erotic gesture. A friend recently told me about her passionate encounter with a guy she met recently who turned her on to no end with an erotic foot job, a massage interrupted with sensuous kisses. The best time to do this is after you are freshly showered as the feet might be dirty. Keep your toenails neatly trimmed and manicured too.
The Thigh kiss is simply what it implies. It is kiss applied to the thighs and is highly effective as one of the kisses for foreplay. Don’t forget that foreplay itself is a version of kissing only more intense and in more intimate places. The thigh kiss can be applied outside or inside of the thighs, from the hips to the knees as many times as possible, depending on the objective of the game. This kiss is so erotic that even the worst of kissers can easily score very high points.
The Wind kisses comprises of two major types when it comes to romantic kisses, the Breath and the Vacuum kiss. Both kisses are more of games than kisses and they create major anticipation in an already hot moment. First, you and your partner should part your lips slightly, barely touching them. Inhale deeply and lock lips (like you’re performing CPR). Slowly exhale into their mouth while they’re inhaling and then begin to share your partner’s breath. You can move your heads to experience different sensations and touch your lips on and off slightly.
The Vacuum kiss is simply the opposite version of the Breath kiss and involves sucking of air from your partner instead of blowing it in. Kiss your partner with an open mouth and suck in so deeply that you’re sucking away your partner’s air. Gently begin to kiss him and share your air with him. Fresh breath is also a must for these kisses, remember!
Finally, there is the Teaser or Travelling kiss. Just as the name implies, this is a kiss meant to tease and tantalise a partner’s senses and bring out their passion. When done correctly, this kiss can be quiet useful if you mean to turn your partner on and make them want more than just kisses. It is a kiss that can start from the forehead and then travel down the entire length of the body. If you do not have sex on the agenda, do not encourage to be kissed this way.
Stop at the shoulders.
No matter the style or type of kiss you adopt, a kiss given with tender, loving thoughts about your partner remains the best kind of kiss ever. Whether it’s on your partner’s mouth, neck, ear or forehead, the love kiss is the most romantic kiss you can give. You might not realize it, but your kissing style can be influenced by whatever is on your mind about the person you are kissing. Smooching with love on your mind will make your kisses extra soft and sweet.
Ways to spice up your kisses
Whether you’re an experienced kisser or you’re still learning the ropes, you can add spice to your kisses by introducing some elements into the act, just like spicing up sex with sex toys. Follow these few tips:
All you have to do is trade off, exchange or pass substances from your mouth to your partner’s. You can only do these with someone you are already comfortable kissing. During this kiss, each person should have a different flavour of candy of their own. You can slowly switch the candy with each other during the kiss, mixing the flavours in your mouth. Be careful not to choke on them. You can also do this with chewing gum, chocolate or sweets.
Choose something with a sexy flavour, like strawberry or mint. This simple sexy act can be replicated with liquids too. An exchange of your favourite drinks. Be careful to start with small sips to avoid spilling. You can also try chewing on an ice cube until your mouth is freezing. Then, kiss your partner, sliding your tongues. You will feel a sexy chill if you do it right. For the female partner, the lip gloss kiss can be a perfect way to have some lovey-dovey fun with your partner too. Splash on a harmless amount of lip gloss on your lips and then rub it on your partner’s until they are coated. Don’t forget to use one with a very sexy flavour.
A note of caution
Like all sexual acts, kissing is not devoid of its own danger. You can actually contact an STI from kissing, though it is not very common. If your partner’s mouth is infected with an STI, then he/she may pass it to you through kissing. Cold sores and blisters (Oral Herpes) can be passed through a kiss if you have an infected partner. H IV or Hepatitis B or C can only be passed through kissing if there is an exchange of blood. Also, if your partner has an infection in his or her genital area, it can be contacted by the partner through oral sex. For instance, if you have a cold sore in your mouth and you give your partner oral sex. You can give him/her oral herpes. The same rule applies if you perform oral sex on a person with STI.
Do have a wonderful weekend!!