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Strategies to overcoming marriage challenges

By Pastor Okokon Ating

Challenges could vary from culture to culture, religion to religion, tribe to tribe, na-tion to nation and from one individual to another. Strategies to overcome challenges include: Being alert and assessing your-self; understanding spe-cial issues; considering your partner’s likes and dislikes and occasionally assessing your marriage.

Be alert and assess yourself: This is self-examination, the Bible says in I Timothy 4:16: “Take heed unto thyself, and unto the doctrine, continue in them: For in doing this thou shalt both save thyself, and them that hear thee.”

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Without a counselor, each spouse should endeavour to ask himself/herself, what he/she is doing or not doing that contributes to the problems in their homes?

Marriage is full of constant criticisms, unrealistic expectations, bitterness, unforgiveness, insensi-tivity, infidelity, etc. It is good to follow what the Bible teaches in Matthew 7:3-5 and Luke 6:41-42.

Every couple that wants to be free from unnecess-ary conflict must consider the first. Couples who found unhelpful attitude in their marriages should seek divine and perhaps human help to forsake this harmful behavior.

This self-alertness could be of great help in sustain-ing a marriage. Look in-ward to discover the mist-akes which are causing pain to your partner. Always say to yourself; “Am I in order with my partner?” “Have I offended my partner today?”

Be alert to special issues: There are issues but we will deal with those special to many couples; including Sex, Finance, In-fertility, Intimacy, Commu-nication, Infidelity, Couples relationship within and outside the home.

There is nothing wrong in couples taking heed to themselves on how to handle those pressing needs which the devil may use to engineer fracas or divorce. Let us take a criti-cal look at them in order to best understand them.

  1. Sex: Sexual problems have marred many relat-ionships. Many couples have had broken homes because sexual matters have not been handled with care and accorded the sensitivity they deserv-ed. Such problems are: Inhibited sexual desire or sexual drive. Premature ejaculation; Retarded ejaculation; Erectile failure

All the above mentioned challenges can quickly be found in men than women. When they occur and it is not resolved as soon as possible, it can result in discouragement in marria-ge. Most women don’t ap-preciate such situation from men.

To women, there are also four sexual challenges confronting most of them: Inhibited sexual desire; Painful sexual intercourse; Lower-ed libido. That is, the wo-man may have sexual de-sire, at least in fantasy and in dreams but in rea-lity she fails to be turned on by her partner during sexual pleasure due to how her genital fails to become lubricated and wet, thus the soft swel-lings at its entrance fails to develop. .

*For enquiries contact:  Apostolic Church, 3, Tree Power Avenue, Itire, Lag-os. Or call: Pastor Okokon Ating on:

08054121355, 08179072635


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