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Understanding the law of relationship

By Pastor Layi Bamidele

A man can miss great opportunity by packaging the right substance with the wrong wrap. Get something right, it is your package that determines your worth,your worth determines your value and your value determines your virtue.

People will address you by the way you dress, and your friends are the dress you put on. Get something right, people can predict who you are by just looking at your friends. One of the greatest undoing of most people today is that they relate with the wrong people and that is why they cannot get to their set destination.


Stop associating with fools, so as you don’t end as a fool. Any relationship or friendship that will not contribute positively to your relationship is not worth it, stay away from such a relationship.

If you gain nothing from a friend either morally, or spiritually, then you do not have a friend. Be care-ful,most problems in the life of two people today is caused by friends who tear down their friends, people who use the little information they have about a person to tear others down.

You must be careful in choosing who you call your friend. Friends that will not add value to your life. Proverb 14:7 says: “Go from the presence of a foolish man, when thou perceivest not in him the lips of knowledge”.

The journey of a man’s success in life, is related to the kind of people he or she relates with. When you keep a wrong company, you will end up with a wrong result. Get something right, who you walk with determine, whom you talk with, and whom you talk with determines whom you will be connected with. I will be taking us on different types of friends that can come up in the life of a man.

Let me begin by friends that are divinely connected. Take for example David’s friendship or relationship with Jonathan: It was a covenant friendship, and this kind of relationship is not common. They are both divinely connected, God imbibed an unbridled love between David and Jonathan, so that Jonathan could reveal all the evil that Saul, his father was planning against that young man called David.

May I say this, with the lots of confidence that in every family, if everyone hates you, God will sometimes make the soul of a member of that family to be closely knitted to yours so as the traps any member sets would be exposed to you.

In every David’s life there will always be a Jonathan. For you to properly identify and know your Jonathan in life, he is a friend who will always celebrate you at every point of your success in life.

I Samuel 18:1 says: “And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul”.

If you look at the analysis of the life of Jonathan to David, they can literarily be referred to as being a covenant friends by God’s divine purpose and plans. The kind of love Jonathan had with David is the kind of love a believer should have for his fellow brothers and sisters even in the household of God.

These are the type of friends who are ready to lay down their lives for a fellow friend to the detriment of his or her own life.

This type of friend is not common in the world now, because everything in the world is turning to the world these days and not to God. People are after worldly things these days and not Godly things. That is why you see betrayal in all the places, including the house of God, even among the ministers of God. The devil has eaten deeply into the world with worldly things that people attach little importance to what they will make in this world, forgetting that you will go back to God our maker with nothing.

No man will be buried with his or her worldly acquisition.

Another type of friendship is what we call a bad tempered friend. A bad tempered friend is a friend who is always uncomfortable with the progress of the people around him or her.

When a person is easily aroused he is a quick tempered, such a person can never be satisfied because he will always look down on others. He sees himself as being superior and his friend as a subordinate.

Be careful with a bad tempered or a quick tempered friend, as such friends don’t care to destroy what has been built for years. They can pull their friend down or tear him down at any given time.

Proverbs 22:24-25 says: “Make no friend with an angry man, and with a furious man thou shall not go, lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul”.

There are some people who can be bad tempered but they are not quick tempered. If you see a bad tempered man, he never wanted the progress of his friend.


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