Dear Bunmi,

I have been dating my girlfriend since this new semester started and I think she’s terrific. To me, she’s the best-looking girl on the campus.

love

The problem is, I’m not the only one who thinks so, most of the boys fancy her. I worship her and want her all to myself, but there are so many guys out there who are better than me.

I’m sure it’s only a matter of time before she dumps me for one of them. How can I hold on to her?

Julius, by e-mail.

Dear Julius,

If you tell yourself the worst will happen, it probably will. In other words, if you feel you’re not good enough for your girlfriend and keep acting as if other guys have more right to her than you do, she’ll start to believe you. Either she’ll think you don’t want her, or she’ll get the message that your self-confidence is low, and that’s not very attractive. Have more faith in yourself. Your girlfriend chose you, not the other boys. She’s stayed with you for months now despite temptations, so you have every reason to think you’re the one she wants. Stop worrying about whether you’ll lose her and concentrate on being good to her. That’s the way to keep her faithful and loyal.