Abuja – Some residents of Abuja on Friday said they discourage extravagant weddings because of the after effect on marriages, while others said affordability was a key factor.
The residents, who spoke in Abuja, said extravagant marriage was not advisable because of its after effect and while others believed it was a matter of choice.
Mrs Vivian Solomon, a business woman at Area 10, Abuja said that the kind of friends some ladies keep influence them in their choice of wedding.
Using herself as an example, she said: “I am a kind of person that believes so much in myself, I don’t really care or act after what other people do.
“I had the kind of wedding I and my husband were able to afford and I was contented with it.
“In a situation like this, ladies tend to try so hard to please the world.
“They want to have the best weddings, want to be seen in ovations, not considering the person they are going out with or the would-be husband.
“The men tell lies and some can even go to the extent of borrowing cars, hiring a house and pretend as if it’s theirs.
“At the end of the day, we find out that the lady suffers it more when it becomes difficult to sustain the marriage because of so much debt,” she said.
Mr Matthew Nwachukwu, a painter said that some ladies would want to frustrate the man sometimes, especially when they desperately want something.
“Ladies will quote the number of friends that had elaborate weddings and will tell you they don’t want to be left out.
“The man might go ahead and borrow money in order to satisfy his wife and at the end, the marriage is in a mess because what they enjoyed that day won’t last forever.
“It is better you just be yourself and know the kind of man you are getting married to. Don’t live a camouflage life, a life that you cannot enjoy forever,” he said
Mr Linus Godwin, a worker at Cyprian Ekwenzi Centre for Art and Culture, Abuja, said that intending couples should put their income into consideration before planning their wedding.
“You know there’s a saying that goes thus; `cut your cloth according to your size’, which simply means use what you have.’’
“Plan your wedding in accordance with the resources you have got.
“For those that are doing it though, I simply understand that they feel inferior and don’t want to be left out.
“They feel that someone has had such an expensive wedding before, probably a younger fellow, so why won’t they do it as well.
“Forgetting to put into consideration how such weddings are funded and when you go extra miles to fund your wedding, you run into perpetual trouble.
“The outcomes of such marriages are disastrous,” he said.
Mr Victor Akpan, a civil servant, said that having a wedding is a matter of choice and affordability.
“If you can afford it do it but if you cannot please don’t stress yourself and borrow to wed, its not worth it. Just do what you can afford,” he said. (NAN)