By Bunmi Sofola

Dear Bunmi,
I am only 28 and just had my first child. To my horror, I discovered my boobs have sagged since I gave birth.
My husband has even noticed this and am desperate to get them back in shape. Is there anything I can do or should I consider plastic surgery?
Franka,
Lagos.

Dear Franka,
Breasts are fat and milk producing gland tissues. They are held up by ligaments that stretch as your breasts grow during pregnancy. They rarely return to their previous size afterwards. Exercise, such as swimming can help.
You will do well to invest in some confidence-boosting bras. Plastic surgery is a bit drastic and very expensive.
Also, there is no guarantee that in a few years you might not need another.

My parents’ shameless sexapades!

Dear Bunmi,
I am in my early twenties and live at home with my parents. My bedroom is next to theirs and I am kept awake some nights by the horrible sounds they make when they are having sex. I know things like that are normal but I feel so embarrassed when I see them the next day.
Nobody is against their having sex at their age, but shouldn’t they tone it down when there are children in the house?
Nonye
By E-mail

Dear Nonye,
When next this happens and you run into your smugly glowing parents over breakfast, face your miim and tell her “Wow! That must have been a really ternble dream you had last night. I heard you screaming as if you were being harassed by armed robbers and I was really scared especially when you started panting. I almost rushed into your room but I knew dad too must have heard the commotion!”

Assume an expression of innocent round-eyed horror as you say this and watch as they develop exactly the same look. Your nights should be a lot more peaceful from them on.!

He detests alcohol

Dear Bunmi,
My best mate drives me up the wall sometimes. He hates alcohol and makes drinkers like me feel as if we’re committing a mortal sin. He says all these stories about red wine doing you good are garbage. He agrees that one glass of wine cleans your arteries, but so does vinegar.

I mean, what would you rather drink, wine or vinegar? I told him booze had other benefits and he asked me to name some. Can you help?
Onome,
By E-Mail

Dear Onome,
Pick up your glass for a congratulatory toast! It’s been proved that people who drink up to two tipples a day are much less likely to develop dementia.

Dutch scientists carried out a six-year study of  8,000 people over 55 years old. They found that light to moderate drinking reduces the risk of all types of dementia, including Alzheinier’s disease, by 42 per cent. Alcohol is thought to have a beneficial effect in the part of the brain involved with memory and learning. The trick here is not to abuse it.