Dear Bunmi, I recently ran into an old mate of mine. I was with my current girlfriend and they seemed to know each other pretty well. She later told me they were an item but later broke up. I know, as a fact, that my friend is well-endowed. He used to brag about it when […]

Dear Bunmi, When I met my current girlfriend, she told me she was on the pill. As the relationship progressed. I told her I already had four children from two different women and wasn’t really interested in having more. I made her understand that I wouldn’t mind if she found another man who wanted children […]

Dear Bunmi, I was in love with my boyfriend for close to a year, when he had a misunderstanding with his wife and moved in with me. He’s always been responsible for the rent and I was happy to finally have him all to myself. Recently, he told me there had been reconciliatory moves by […]

Dear Bunmi, Although I am an enlightened 24-year-old secretary, the thought of sex has made me feel sick to my stomach for years. I have to get very drunk and grit my teeth before I allow my boyfriend to have sex with me. Friends have always bragged of how mind-blowing they find sex. Why am I […]

Dear Bunmi, I got married over 12 years ago to a man who was on the plum side. I didn’t mind this too much as I wasn’t slim either. Unfortunately, he’s piled on a lot of weight since we got married and I hate the way he looks. I’m not nasty to him about his […]

Dear Bunmi, A few months ago, my best friend’s brother paid a visit to one of the top managers in the office where I work. He didn’t know I work there and was actually glad to see me. He offered me lunch and we had a lovely time. When he asked where I stayed, I told […]

By Bunmi Sofola RECENTLY, I had been inundated with requests from you readers on how to improve your love life.  And what better time to start than now to relieve the stress of the pandemic and the economy?  I was musing on this when I came across an A to Z guide to a sexier you […]

By  Bunmi Sofola A couple of years back, I had a business lunch with a powerful female executive of a textile firm. We’d never met before but by the first course, I’d learned that she had a young son, that juggling a demanding job and home life was nearly killing her and that the father […]

By Bunmi Sofola It may be little comfort, but women whose partners cheat on them are likely to be better off in the long run. The largest study of break-ups caused by infidelity found that the lessons learned helped women pick a better partner. The heartbreak of unfaithfulness left them with a ‘higher mating intelligence […]

By Bunmi Sofola IT was chin-wagging session with us ‘girls’ a few weeks back in Layo’s small bungalow.  A very successful jeweller, she travels far and wide to source for the products she sells and charges hard currency for most of the items.  She was rich to say the least.  A mother of three children, […]

Dear Bunmi, For years I was involved with a man who verbally and physically abused me. I finally had the courage to leave him but, because of his nastiness, I seem to resent men in a big way and they tend to hurt and use me. I am now in my late 20s and recently met […]

Dear Bunmi, My husband and I sometimes engage in perversion whenever I am having my period; I do blow-job on him. The last time I gave him one, I noticed the top of his manhood looked a bit sore, but we went ahead, regardless. Now, the sore is worse and the inside of my mouth […]

Dear Bunmi, Whenever we got to my husband’s town house for weekend functions, he insists that our 17-year-old son stays with his sister’s family. Our two other children are away at the university and I believe our son is mature enough to stay alone in our flat, but my husband thinks otherwise. What do you […]

Dear Bunmi, My husband of over 10 years has been taking hard drugs for sometime now. I can’t express how it has damaged my family; it is just traumatic. I have three children to raise and money is the main problem. My husband disappears for days, tells lies and swindles his friends and relations. I’ve come […]

Dear Bunmi, About a year ago, my husband moved me and our two children out of our matrimonial home into one of his other flats. We’d been having problems with our marriage because he is a chronic womaniser who had slept with a couple of my nieces. His reason for wanting time on his own […]