Dear Bunmi, she wanted love-making with me, not marriage
I lost my wife a few years ago in an unfortunate motor accident and had made up my mind to re-marry. We were married for over 20 years and she was a good mother to our three boys. Late last year, I was introduced to a divorced lady at a close friend’s birthday party, and […]
Dear Bunmi, I thought I’d teach him a lesson!
My boyfriend of four years currently doesn’t want anything to do with me. He is a university lecturer and seems to have more girls needing his attention on campus than me. They are everywhere. In his office and in the flat the university allocated to him. I have a very demanding schedule, as I work […]
Dear Bunmi, must I have a boyfriend?
In my 26 years on this earth, I have only had a casual relationship with a man I met at the university, but we were not intimate. I don’t really fancy the idea of having a boyfriend, but my family and friends are at my back to have one and are always matchmaking. I have […]
Would you ever find that Mr. Right?
By Bunmi Sofola WITH all her friends matching up and getting married, the average spinster can’t help but wonder when her turn would come. She’s got fewer people to go out with now as a lot of her friends are married and she hasn’t found anyone she wants to spend the rest of her life […]
Dear Bunmi, why is he always texting in the toilet?
I currently live with my boyfriend of 10 months and I never thought he would cheat on me – I know we love each other deeply. But he recently came back from a three-week course, where he said he got friendly with a female delegate from another company. I thought nothing of this. But one […]
Dear Bunmi, I wish he were lots younger!
I am in my mid-20s and have known my current partner for over three years. He’s in his late 40s and a widower. He is bald and certainly looks his age. My friends say I can do better than what I’ve got. I really care for him as he’s been very supportive financially. Read Also: […]
Dear Bunmi, I need to break off from this older lover
I met my boyfriend when I was 18 and we’ve been together for five years. The problem is, we’re always arguing but I know we love each other. Unfortunately, I’ve started sleeping with a married friend of my uncle. He’s much older than I am and I don’t know how it happened or why I’m […]
Dear Bunmi, his boob joke is humiliating
Maybe I’m just being silly but I really hate it when my boyfriend squeezes my breasts in public and says: ‘Honk! Honk!’ I’m quite heavy on top and this just draws attention to them. I find it really humiliating. Other than that, he’s really a nice guy. Shall I just let him carry on and […]
Dear Bunmi, he’s gone back to his wife
I’ve been seeing a man, who is 15 years older than I am, for the past two years. I love him more than I ever thought was possible – but things have become very tough. We were friends for a couple of years before we started a relationship, so from the start I knew he […]
Dear Bunmi, my teenage daughter’s ruining my relationship
After spending years alone, I finally found a man I care for and who cares for me. Our problem is my 18-year-old daughter. She’s spent most of her secondary school years in boarding schools and has to be at home now she’s trying to get into the university. She doesn’t get on at all with […]
Couples who kiss regularly are less likely to get depressed
By Bunmi Sofola WHEN it comes to first kisses, scientists agree with those who believe in love at first sight, happy endings and the power of that first glorious embrace. That’s because, scientists say, a kiss is much more than just a way of saying you fancy someone. It’s an efficient means of working out if your […]
Dear Bunmi, I’m still single at over 30
Dear Bunmi, I’m in my mid-30s and just out of a relationship that I thought would have ended in marriage. Now I’m convinced that I might never marry and start a family. A few of my friends are in the same boat and one or two have opted for having children out of wedlock. Read Also: […]
She’s using our son as a bargaining chip
Dear Bunmi, About three years ago, against my better judgment, I went out with this girl who was tagged an ‘easy lay’ by the boys. All I wanted was a bite of the cherry, like everybody was having, but she later told me she was pregnant. I denied the pregnancy outright and gave her money to […]
I think I gave him a wrong impression
Dear Bunmi, A group of us from my university went to this hot party and I ended up going home with a very attractive man. We didn’t actually have sex, but we fooled around most of the night. The next morning, I woke up dying of embarrassment, as I was totally naked in bed with this […]
His ex-wife won’t let go!
Dear Bunmi, I met my husband five years ago when he was separated from his wife. As soon as his divorce went through, we got married and his 16-year-old son now lives with us. He rarely sees his mother and she seldom calls him. They also have a 17-year-old daughter who opted to live with her […]
Think you should have married your true love?
WHO would you call the love of your life? Is it the person you still think of with a bit of nostalgia regardless of whether the relationship lasted or not? Many of us believe that our first grand passion, rather than the dependable type we end up marrying, should be revered. According to a recent […]
