By Bunmi Sofola There is currently a subliminal build-up to Christmas.  Wherever you turn, discreet Christmas carols blaring from the stereos of the various record shops assault your ears.  Could it be Christmas already?  Well, this is November and Christmas is only a few weeks away.  The cable network is awash with weepy Christmas films […]

“But our bodies are different. I can wake up
on a Monday and think: ‘Oh yes, sex!’ but not feel at all like it at the weekend when Ray’s in the mood…”

Some few weeks back, I was talking to the father of a teenage boy who was despairing that his son insisted on putting his play-station above homework, chores and even sleep.  He asked, with a defeated shrug: “What can I do?”  I was afterall an agony aunt.  He seemed to believe that as the boy’s […]

By Bunmi Sofola The biggest problem with resolutions is that they’re so negative,” observed Rikiat, a 43 year-old legal practitioners.  “I will watch less TV” or “I will stop eating junk food” or “I work fewer hours.”  While the root of these desires is perfectly worthy, the phrasing is all wrong.  Telling yourself not to […]

Now that the season of giving is with us, if you sniff hard enough, you can actually smell the New Year!  The shops are bursting with gifts, despite almost abject poverty, despite the thinness of foreign exchange on the ground.  And the kids are back from school, their expectant, almost accusing looks, tugging at your […]