By Bunmi Sofola A Reader wrote: I have followed your columns way back from your Punch days when I was in the university. Most of the times, your articles are so down-to-earth they speak to me – as if you are writing about me. In one of the editions of Sunday Vanguard a few months […]

By Bunmi Sofola There is currently a subliminal build-up to Christmas.  Wherever you turn, discreet Christmas carols blaring from the stereos of the various record shops assault your ears.  Could it be Christmas already?  Well, this is November and Christmas is only a few weeks away.  The cable network is awash with weepy Christmas films […]

“But our bodies are different. I can wake up
on a Monday and think: ‘Oh yes, sex!’ but not feel at all like it at the weekend when Ray’s in the mood…”

Some few weeks back, I was talking to the father of a teenage boy who was despairing that his son insisted on putting his play-station above homework, chores and even sleep.  He asked, with a defeated shrug: “What can I do?”  I was afterall an agony aunt.  He seemed to believe that as the boy’s […]

By Bunmi Sofola The biggest problem with resolutions is that they’re so negative,” observed Rikiat, a 43 year-old legal practitioners.  “I will watch less TV” or “I will stop eating junk food” or “I work fewer hours.”  While the root of these desires is perfectly worthy, the phrasing is all wrong.  Telling yourself not to […]

Now that the season of giving is with us, if you sniff hard enough, you can actually smell the New Year!  The shops are bursting with gifts, despite almost abject poverty, despite the thinness of foreign exchange on the ground.  And the kids are back from school, their expectant, almost accusing looks, tugging at your […]

By Akanni Dorcas Infidelity often makes the news, making loyalty seem rare. But there are men who are different; men who are dependable, honest, and committed. These men don’t sneak around or leave their partners feeling insecure. What makes these men so trustworthy? Here are five types of men who are less likely to cheat, […]

Christmas is a time to celebrate love, joy, and togetherness. Alongside the delicious jollof rice, chicken, and bright decorations, it’s also a time to share laughter and make unforgettable memories.

Counting down to Christmas is one of the most magical parts of the holiday season as it’s a chance to bond, laugh, and make unforgettable memories with family.

When Morola talks about the end of her marriage, her regret is palpable.  She says she still loves her husband and the husband admits: “I still love my wife, but will never get over her being with another man.”  Even though he’d cheated twice?!  Recent research has shown that cheating occurs in over 40 per […]

By Bunmi Sofola Suddenly finding yourself alone after many years of marriage shatters the foundation of your existence.  As well as the pain of a broken heart, you have to deal with the practicalities of separation while trying to remain strong for your children.  With Christmas bounding down the door, the good cheers of revellers […]

Dear Bunmi, anyway, she ended up kissing a much younger man at the party and both of them were eventually caught having sex in the toilet!

By Bunmi Sofola Most of us will probably admit to the occasional little white lie.  But in fact, more than one in three people tell at least one lie every day.  And it turns out that the fairer sex is the biggest fibbers of all.  According to a survey, a shocking four in five women […]

“It has reached a point where I feel too disgusting to get undressed in front of my husband. It has resulted in slowing down our life (in the other room)”

SHOULD the romance in a marriage stop after the birth of a few kids?  Forget slaving to put food on the table, pay the rent and put a substantial sum of money aside for the kids’ education.  The question is … ‘MOT,’ just as often as you do that priced car(s) of yours?  What brought […]