She has offered to hyphenate our surnames, but I think that’s just ridiculous. I am a traditional man and I find her attitude irritating. 

While romance and love are important, they’re not the only things to take into account while forming a lasting relationship.

By Bunmi Sofola YOU must have lost count of stories you’ve been regaled with about the shenanigans of some husbands and the family’s nanny. Only, it is a heartbreaking reality for some wives.  What does it feel like to be betrayed by the man you married with a woman living under your own roof?  And […]

While no one wants to suspect their partner of cheating, ignoring the signs can lead to further heartache and damage.

Dear Bunmi, I’m involved with two men and can’t choose which one I really want to be with. I don’t know which would give me a better life

Can you make it to be in the house this Friday?”, asked a good friend excitedly.  “I’m having a small get-together for my daughter,” he explained.  “Your daughter?”  I asked curiously, my mind working overtime.  He was pushing 70, had only a son who was now happily married.  Did he mean a granddaughter, or had […]

These days however, with infidelity being condoned, some men have come out to support their wives in their quest to get pregnant, to the extent of agreeing to Natural insemination (NI)

“You take careful note next time you see a seeming moron tagging after his wealthy and brilliant wife who earns considerably more than he does and you’ll discover he’s only playing the adage that it takes a wise man to play the fool, so he could lay his greedy hands on her money”, so declared […]

By Bunmi Sofola GRACE is my ex-wife and Bisi my live-in-lover, what is commonly referred to as the second ‘wife’. Only, we’re not legally married as I can’t stand the messy details of divorce and it doesn’t help that both of them can’t stand each other.” Kola, a man of immense wealth and connection can […]

By Bunmi Sofola They used to be called the derive name of Kidults – but now there are loads of single and working adults still hanging to the family homes’ chandeliers!  Take Rolake for instance.  She has just clocked 30 and, according to her, every time she’s in the family home, “My mum sends the […]

It may sound like I’m the luckiest woman on earth, but too much of everything is bad and I’m getting bored and upset by it all

It’s often said that you never know a partner until you live together. For almost two years, Deola and Cletus not only courted, they lived in each other’s flats. When Cletus eventually proposed marriage, Deola had no problems whatsoever accepting to be his wife. It was long overdue – both of them being in their […]

By Bunmi Sofola NO matter how many unprintable words you would use for an alcoholic, the fact still remains that alcoholism, apart from being a sign of weakness, is also a ‘disease.’  Once the bug bites you, getting it out of your system becomes a nightmare.  The nightmare becomes endless when you have to live […]

By Bunmi Sofola THE Nigerian culture is of ten rooted in diplomacy, especially when it has to do with polygamous relationships.  Eight cases out of ten, it is the first wife that’s left gnashing her teeth after the death of her husband.  A few weeks ago, Bola, a good friend, had a get together party for […]

FOR a man who just turned 30, Joel should be at his most virile.  Tall, handsome with a well-paid job, he admits he’s never had any difficulty attracting the opposite sex.  His problem is that when he wants to have sex with a woman, he needs up to two Viagra pills to perform.  The blue tablets […]