“Of course you cannot know a man completely, his character, his principles, sense of judgment, not till he shows his colors, ruling the people, making laws. Experience, there’s the test”.

I am yielding this space today to my son, Boye, who has some observations concerning this country. You see, Boye has been out of this country for about 13 years.

A light bulb moment is an experience that can be life challenging. It simply means you get a new perspective or an understanding that puts some fundamental pieces of the puzzle that is life together.

My difficulty centered on why we may dodge, but cannot entirely avoid the tag of a failed nation, judging by our woeful record which lacks an appreciable measure of progress as a nation in the past fifty years. Please pardon me for having to quote at length from these statements. Stay with me; I’m going somewhere (as the preachers fondly entreat their congregations these days.)

This week, what we will discuss is not my position and really not my view per se, but when we are done, you would agree with me that it does make sense. Before I go further, I would like to state categorically that I am a great advocate for, marriage, I am very well married, and I do believe in marriage. I want that to be clear. I do not want to be labeled a woman’s libber or a feminist.