What’s a man’s pride got to do with it when he smells the money?!
By Bunmi Sofola SYLVIA admitted that her parent’s marriage and the stoic way her mummy yielded her position as the first wife to a much younger and ambitious woman prepared her for the way she handled her relationship with men. Her story: ‘When a man suddenly discovered he’s scaled the ladder of success faster than he’d […]
It’s none of his business the number of partners you’ve ‘had’!
By Bunmi Sofola A friend of mine recently met the men of her dreams. In the whirlwind courtship that followed, they quickly got round to the conversational games that lovers play. And “so it was that Mr. Right asked Miss Right: “How many men have you slept with? The sensible girl immediately reversed the question, to […]
Beware, low-fat diets can make you infertile!
By Bunmi Sofola HAVE you often wrestled to zip up your jeans, cursing every bulge and bump in your body, or gazed longingly at all the skimpy tops in the shops wishing you had the figure to carry them off? It is a fact that a lot of women have dreamt of being skinny at […]
The pain of losing a loved one through child-birth
Ten years on, I’m a different person to the one I would have been had she not died. And while deep in your soul you miss the person every day, the intense pain gets less with time – either that or you understand it more and live with it – but that itself is very comforting. You have to accept and assimilate the effect of your loss into your life. Only then can you start to deal with it….”
She learnt the hard way she couldn’t mend her parents’ broken marriage!
By Bunmi Sofola Separation has often been a bitter pill for children involved in the heart-wrenching decision to swallow. A few years ago, Claire’s parents decided to separate after almost 20 years of marriage. “My father had always made it known that he abhorred polygamy,” said Claire. So, instead of taking a second wife when […]
Adults suffer emotionally too when their parents’ marriages crash
By Bunmi Sofola When Joshua’s marriage crashed after 22 years, she was so wrapped up in the aftermath of her divorce she paid little attention to her first daughter. Benny, then 21, was so hard-hit by the separation, her life took a downward turn. “It was several years later that the details of her debauchery […]
How do you handle a scared, pregnant 15-year-old?
By Bunmi Sofola ROSALINE was attending her company’s usual monthly briefing when she was called out to answer a call. “I knew straight away that it would be a distress call,” said Rosaline. ‘The secretaries had strict instructions not to pull any of the sales executives out of a meeting to answer any calls except […]
‘She stole my fatherhood when she got rid of the baby’
By Bunmi Sofola EVERY time a woman feels she’s been done by in a relationship with the opposite sex, she goes yahooing about it to everyone who cares to listen – including the press,” so wrote Effiong in response to the article: ‘When you’re in love, you’ll believe even a serial womaniser,’ featured on this page […]
DNA revisited: “My husband made my sister pregnant!”
By Bunmi Sofola ISN’T it amazing what torrent of scandal a little event like being pregnant can unleash? For the four years Lisa was married to Nekan, her husband, she tried all she could to get pregnant. At first she thought it was due to her reproductive organs malfunctioning. After series of tests, it was […]
Couldn’t stand his steward having all the fund!!
By Bunmi Sofola Bolaji is a cherished friend I’ve known for years and he loves a good gossip. Most of all, he’s learnt to laugh at himself from time to time no matter at what cost. It’s always a pleasure to listen to him on the few occasions he finds the time to phone. When […]
What if your children don’t take to your new lover?!
By Bunmi Sofola It stands to reason that with the spate of divorce the society now witnesses and the number of unwanted pregnancies, single parenthood has come to stay. The sad picture is that, unlike in the old days when single parents were mostly widows who couldn’t be considered young, a lot of single parents today, male […]
Now’s the time to put a halt to your lavish lifestyle!
By Bunmi Sofola We all have at least one friend like Cynthia. The type of friend you’ve had for years but who could still drive you mad. The last time I called at her place, her ‘bosom’ friend Yinka was around. More of a scrounge, she always agreed to whatever Cynthia said, forever grateful for her […]
At what age should you allow your kids to play naked in the street?!
By Bunmi Sofola Do you think it’s irresponsible to let children run around naked in public? And at what age should they stop doing so? Decades back, long before the emergence of paedophiles and serial rapists, nobody bat an eyelash whenever any kid ran around the neighbourhood – some even did it close to puberty! […]
I won’t follow mama’s footsteps
By Yetunde Arebi You should have seen the shock on my aunt’s face when Temilade, her 32 year old daughter finally told her she had no intention of ever getting married! Weddings are a waste of money, while marriages are a waste of time, energy and emotions, she’d declared. All she desires is to be a single […]
Mothers-in-law who see nothing wrong in their son’s behaviour
By Sofola Bunmi For almost a week, Wura, a pharmacist recently battled a chronic attack of the malaria fever. “I was home-bound,” she said, “and Nick, my husband was no help. A typical Mama’s boy. I couldn’t count on him to look after himself, let alone after our two kids. The house-help was new and we needed […]
Why have scary special network feeds become a national pastime?
By Bunmi Sofola After some nudges from well-meaning friends, I finally activated the WhatsApp site some years back, and instantly declared it a brilliant find. It was exciting, new and loads of fun as more and more friends joined, sharing jokes and photos of very interesting nights out and other social events. Sadly, over the […]
