By Bunmi Sofola A few months ago I spent a few days with a very dear friend who lives in a block of luxury flat, and noticed ante occupant of the next flat to hers was new.  In the past, the flat had been occupied by some noisy neighbours.  It was a relief to have […]

By Bunmi Sofola There’s no explaining the function of the heart (head?) when it comes to sex.  One minute, you’re seemingly happily married, the next you want nothing to do with your ex and head straight for the divorce court.  At the end of it all, you feel relieved.  Once in a while, you might […]

By Bunmi Sofola ANY festive period is ideal for coming up with a party you hope with serve as snare for trapping money bags. Having a party to get a sizeable contract or two from friends of your lover seems a bit calculating, but tell them cheerily that you are having a Christmas or New […]

By Bunmi Sofola WOULD you attend your ex-husband’s wedding to his new bride even if he’s behaved like a rat?  When Angela’s marriage broke down irretrievably some five years ago, she was very bitter that she’d been left to raise their three children as a single parent. “Until that point,” she recalled, “Uzor was my whole […]

By Bunmi Sofola THE amount the average woman spends to look glamorous these days could make the average husband bankrupt for the rest of his life! Hakeem, a spare parts dealer and in his 40s is a self-made man. He’d first served as an apprentice under the uncle who brought him up before he was […]

By Bunmi Sofola You’ve been seeing your man for, say, six months and the lust-ridden sex marathon you first embarked on has now slowed down to once or twice a week. So what are you going to do now? Stay at this stage forever? Or plan on having more a night of mindblowing sex which […]

By Bunmi Sofola One of the things that frighten a lot of us is dying before our time. To achieve our dream of longevity, experts advice we lead a relatively healthy lifestyle, exercise daily, drink in moderation, eat plenty of fruit and vegetables, and most importantly of all-shim fatty foods including butter and dairy products to […]

By Bunmi Sofola DENIKE’s life was a blessed life.  She lived in an imposing five-bedroom home – a house surrounded by a beautiful garden where she and her three children relaxed most afternoons.  Her husband earned a lot of money running a lucrative haulage business and Denike had to leave her air-hostess job to go into […]

By Bunmi Sofola You wake up every morning wondering what ‘crimes’ you’ll commit today, and how your husband will punish you”, Tina, a victim of a violent husband laments.  “A punch in the face for asking him for money for the children’s school fees?  A slap in the face for saying hello to an old […]

By Bunmi Sofola Mention the words ‘bottom power’ and what comes to mind is the picture of a ruthless ambitious woman, ready to sleep her way to the top.  And it doesn’t matter who with.  Amanda, now in her 40s, was not born poor, so had no excuse all those years for falling for Sam, […]

By Bunmi Sofola TO re-route male attention south wards from her boobs, Margaret confessed she’s tried wearing baggy black T-Shirts and vice-like sports bras to no avail. A cute and very intelligent computer analyst, she told me recently that: “I’ve tried everything to divert the opposite sex from staring at my rather ample chest. But […]

By Bunmi Sofola Did you just suddenly wake up one day, look at yourself in the mirror and say: “My God! I’m getting old!” Or did the realisation creep in on you until you just can’t ignore it? Roli, now in her late 50s used to be a model and now runs her own modelling […]

By Bunmi Sofola MOST people want to meet Mr. Or Miss Right”. Said Jare a 30-year old single mother of one. “Most people in their youth dream of one day making a commitment to one person. When they do, they don’t then leave the marriage because they do not respect it, can’t stand living with an […]

By Bunmi Sofola WE all have our share of foul-weather friends. But are you one yourself? Your career is grinding to a halt, the man you once termed “the best thing that ever happened to me” has found lasting bliss with another woman and your good friend is driving you insane giving you a blow-by-blow account […]

By Bunmi Sofola EVERY time Ireti visited her mother-in-law, her teeth were always on edge.  Ruth, her mother-in-law is now in her mid 70s, frail and ailing, but as full of spite as when Ireti married her precious son 15 years ago. “Ruth and I had always been at war,” confessed Ireti, “but Gboye, my […]